My dad has a second wife

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If your Mr -to-be is a nice person..he’ll understand IA!..not that 2nd marriages are an unknown random phenomenon!relax..concentrate on your guy/develope understanding etc instead of eating up your head on these issues…
‘beauty sleeep’..engagement coming up girl:flowers:

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ohhh is this the same adventurous guy???
i'm sure he'll like you being straightforward with him as he is in general himself...you mentioned he is open minded too:)

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and wat does ure dad say about this ?

ask ure dad to stop her from interfering

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Its a secret right now, but don't you think that anything can happen in the future to possibly make it come out to your husband. Why wouldn't you tell him because your afraid he'll start thinking polygamy is acceptable. Its acceptable generally in Islam but what does that have to do with your personal opinion, if its not for you then your husband would be considerate of that wouldnt he? And if it changes his mind about it and makes him open to it, isn't that something you would want to know about him before you get engaged to this person?

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If you are so sure then why are you wasting people's time. You have already answered your own question.

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tell ur step-mom to get lost f-off and stop creating drama in ur life for no reason .. and u dont need to tell ur fiance sh!t

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She's not wasting anyone's time, some people just need validation for their desicions.

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You should tell him because if it comes out later he'll probably be upset that you never did prompting him to question how honest you are with him. Also, doesn't the first wife have to agree to the husband taking a second wife in Islam anyways? If he asks, just say no.

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One fine day he will know it.

I know someone who hid that her uncle had two wives for 3-4 years from the inlaws. But in the end they themselves blew the ballon. Which you're most probably going to do as well, so better to just tell now. Chupana use chaiye jo humesha chupa rahe. Yeh koi chupane wali baat nahin hai. Aur agar aapke miyan sahib ne doosri shaadi karni huye, tu usse koi farek nahin padega ke aap ke walid ne ki thi ya nahin.

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I’m sorry, but why would your husband think it’s OK to get a 2nd wife just cause your father did. :confused: He’s not a baby now is he.
I don’t get the logic behind this.

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if you tell him how disturbing it's been for you and your mother it will have quite the opposite affect! he'll find it gross and unacceptable (as he should since it's gross)

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So you tell him and he thinks ur accepting of it. Obviously from the way you tell him he'd know that you didn't like how it hurt you and your family ,so it will be pretty clear that you aren't going to accept any such step.

and if he does turn out to be one of those jerks who wouldn't marry you for it or his attitude towards you changes, isn't that good riddance? Y would yo wait to get married and then deal with the consequences . Tell him so that you have a better understanding of who he is. I'm sure it will be a shock/surprise but apart from that leeway it's situations like these that tell you the character of a person.

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It won't be a 'fine day' if he finds out from other sources. ;-)

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Do men who marry daughters of men with more than a wife tend to get more than a wife themselves?