few days back my couisn discussed this problem with me and ask advise..i thought i can disscuss with u all it will not harm her as u dont know her
actually her hubby is a nice man but oftenly he say her like oh my couisn is working why dont u work…there are so many girsl are working…oh that girl plays tennis well why dont u play tennis…what u do whole day…why dont u do this why dont u do that some girl are fantastic designer u should design…when she say to him that i m not in mood or not intrested then he say why dont u have inetrest “larkian tu karti hain”..tum ku nahi karti
she felt irritation when her hubby say all atleast 3,4 times a week…infact felt bad why he always say k larkian yeh karti hain woh karti hain
actually i m unable to explain here that what she was trying to tel mel…
he wants her to be active...its good to have hobbies (especially if they are housewife). so husband dont feel that their wife is always emotionally depending on them (i think).
I think he wants her to do something with her life and not just sit around at home and watch tv.
If thats not what she does then she should TELL him what she does all day
I don't agree with Zobia though having something to do will make you happier and not get you into depression. It won't make you less dependent on your husband emotionally. It would just cause less problems. and you would have something to talk about with your husband
wife: I did ___________
husband: really? can I see?
etc
If the girl is happy with the life she has currently than lets not suggest that she finds something to do. Maybe she has something to do and she is happy with that. Husband shouldn't always be telling her do this that... because with what she is doing currently, she is happy with that.
My suggestion is that the wife should talk to her husband and make him understand that she is happy and content with her life and doesn't want to do what someone else is doing, or even care what others are doing. If he doesn't understand, let him taste his own medicine.
And errr like someone else said, I also want to rewrite your post. The title also suggest you are talking about your husband who is also your cousin. It should be "my cousin's husband".
I see no problem with this. He's trying to make her realise her true potential. If she doesn't have many resposibilities (e.g kids) then she should go and find a hobby she likes doing, who knows she might like it so much that she turns it into her livelihood. Tbh if my other half wasn't interested in anything other than sitting at home for no reason then I would encourage him to do something by using real life examples who are successful.
few days back my couisn discussed this problem with me and ask advise..i thought i can disscuss with u all it will not harm her as u dont know her
actually her hubby is a nice man but oftenly he say her like oh my couisn is working why dont u job...there are so many girsl are working...oh that girl plays tennis well why dont u play tennis...what u do whole day...why dont u do this why dont u do that some girl are fantastic designer u should design....when she say to him that i m not in mood or not intrested then he say why dont u have inetrest "larkian tu karti hain"..tum ku nahi karti
she felt irritation when her hubby say all atleast 3,4 times a week...infact felt bad why he always say k larkian yeh karti hain woh karti hain
actually i m unable to explain here that what she was trying to tel mel...
Well to me it seems like he's just trying to get her out of the house, he's just trying to get her involved in sports, work, studying etc..that's good, it's not healthy to just stay at home, you gotta do something!
well she is studying bachelor in london...she is not a bore fellow..she is very outgoing girl....love to travel dinning outs...she has friends and has some responsiblities at home like grossary domestic chores etc....
It is pretty annoying when someone constantly nags you to do something and is always pointing out other people..... im sure the husband wouldn't be happy if she kept going "lookit your friend, he dresses like that, he has a good job, he earns more money" etc etc