My Confidence is taboo in Pakistan

[partyslims]

Blue passport trumps bald head. Go get em tiger.

[Southie]

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@kakaballi

misreading title.

Don’t

[geminifromkhi]

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@SID_NY

Did you get that long-awaited “kuch kuch hota hai” feeling while reading OP’s post btw? just asking

LOL
I don’t think they exist any more

[bakhabar]

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It is very clear, most people backing me/my head are non-pakistani residents. Pakistan still is the old pakistan.
I have been asked to step aside for intergation six times in past ten years on pakistani airports. The least amount of trouble I had was always when my (hijabi) mom was accompanying me.
Stupid streotypes
Arabs lead, in accepting new norms, unlike us.
Guys in Pakistan are easy to socialize, you realise it no time, they treat you as no alien.
While rest of them grow up watching sha ruk khan movies. they keep staring at the big egg in the middle of the room.
I am yet to witness a movie that came from subcontinent and had a bald hero.
Somebody mention ali azmtt, i did not knew him, so I googled. born in 1970, married in 2011 (at 41) lol,dude i could use some motivation here. :')

I will live through those social-family-taboo fist fights, becuase I am good, but not many people (who appear) like me, will.

I’m fixin to be there in two months need to work on my strategy to avoid those gold diggers and cattywampuses, who’d not care about the head!
Pray for me, if I am successful you get pat a finely shaped bald head . . I’ll even wax it for you

[bakhabar]

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@PyariCgudia

Plenty of girls here in the States. Why don’t you look here? You think you guys are the only decent family in the US?

@Reha

Um…I doubt anyone will have any issues with your baldness in Pakistan.

And by the way, why aren’t you looking in the States?

Pardon me, could respond to you earlier, It’s a long story. My mother looked in alot of places, but there were instances where we came pretty close however girls had their own commitments. they were from phoenix, houston and upstate newyork.

While there were two particular instances, where my mother was exploring two families, both of them from missouri. Girls had some history, which i knew personally. One of them went to my high school, back in the day. I am pretty sure, their families were unaware of the girls’ past as well. I was not planning to disclose anything to my mom, as this is against my own ethics, but girls found out that they were being considered for me, and they knew that I was aware of their past, so they rolled back the rishta themselves through their familes, this was 2 years back.

Commitments, and non-compatibility aside, then there is a third kind, mostly from pakistan, “already taken ones”, they are usually taken around 22 years of age. there was this daughter of my father’s friend, also our ex-neighbors from pak, to this very day, my father regrets about missing.

That does not mean, that we are very picky people, it’s just that my father and myself, we honor our mother very much, for the way she’s raised me, and stood for the family. She is respected in the community, I just need someone to take her place as successor. demands from my side are pretty basic.

I hope that answers it yáll.

[Sehrysh]

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Fully waxed/shaved head trumps buzz-cut monk’s ring, and buzz-cut monk’s ring will always win over a comb-over (please, no comb-overs - that’s the kiss of death!)

Truth be told, bald or full head of hair is immaterial - it’s about your overall confidence and how you carry yourself. Arrogant pretty boys with a colourful past are icky, compared to a confident, morally upright and well-put together guy (even if he’s follically-challenged).

[sweefs]

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@Sehrysh

Fully waxed/shaved head trumps buzz-cut monk’s ring, and buzz-cut monk’s ring will always win over a comb-over (please, no comb-overs - that’s the kiss of death!)

Truth be told, bald or full head of hair is immaterial - it’s about your overall confidence and how you carry yourself. Arrogant pretty boys with a colourful past are icky, compared to a confident, morally upright and well-put together guy (even if he’s follically-challenged).

HEY. did you hear hugh jackman will make his last wolverine movie by 2017? that’s it. goodbye hugh.

[Sehrysh]

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@sweefs

HEY. did you hear hugh jackman will make his last wolverine movie by 2017? that’s it. goodbye hugh.

I told you the time I was like 40 feet away from Hugh right? Oh, those eyes and that smile He even did a shout out to Wolverine!

[ekumunng]

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Even Nawaz Sharif and Shahbaz Sharif got married with bald heads… you should have more chances!!!

[sweefs]

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@Sehrysh

I told you the time I was like 40 feet away from Hugh right? Oh, those eyes and that smile He even did a shout out to Wolverine!

oh yeah! i also remember you liked the gay guy who played some character in suits.

[Sehrysh]

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@sweefs

oh yeah! i also remember you liked the gay guy who played some character in suits.

He is NOT gay!!! Don’t you be saying mean things about Gabriel Macht.

[BellaShabba]

If you are a good catch and your personality shines through whats baldness going to do! Only those who worry over trivial things like read into things like that too much

[eastern11]

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So you are looking in the Midwest? There are lots of girls here who are looking. In Pakistan , you wouldn’t have trouble finding a rishta.

[Rems]

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Why you don’t want to go for transplant? Just asking.

[bakhabar]

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@eastern11

So you are looking in the Midwest? There are lots of girls here who are looking. In Pakistan , you wouldn’t have trouble finding a rishta.

it might sound ridiculously stupid, but currently I/we are not looking anywhere, last proper effort was made months back. But lets see how things go in next two months. We have no issues with southern or western either, as long basic criteria is fulfilled and there are no major ideological differences - real deal breaker. My job requires me relocate alot. there are atleast 7 confirm relocations planned for me in next 20 years. There are always american families around in those locations, and mostly (my colleagues) wives adapt to new places. So it does not matter where she’d be coming from, be it Baku, or oregon, its the same thing as long as she’s not a doc/lawyer/working for state department.

@Rems

Why you don’t want to go for transplant? Just asking.

it defines part of who I am, I beleive adding something to my body, which just isn’t there, would be pretty fake act. but in a bigger picture, this is me, I started training 10 years ago, and all the guys i knew in my league were onto something, legal protiens. 5 years ago I found out most of the people in my training (boxing) were using quick healer injections. For myself, I was never onto supplements or injections, stayed organic or non-synth, then I assessed the impacts that i might encounter in my life by going bald.then I had the aggasi like head shape, so decision came pretty easy. I am all natural and clean!

I like paklinks - small number of sensible people coming together with certain background, while anonmity is maintained (take this facebook!)

[PyariCgudia]

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What’s wrong with docs and lawyers??

[PyariCgudia]

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@bakhabar

Pardon me, could respond to you earlier, It’s a long story. My mother looked in alot of places, but there were instances where we came pretty close however girls had their own commitments. they were from phoenix, houston and upstate newyork.

While there were two particular instances, where my mother was exploring two families, both of them from missouri. Girls had some history, which i knew personally. One of them went to my high school, back in the day. I am pretty sure, their families were unaware of the girls’ past as well. I was not planning to disclose anything to my mom, as this is against my own ethics, but girls found out that they were being considered for me, and they knew that I was aware of their past, so they rolled back the rishta themselves through their familes, this was 2 years back.

Commitments, and non-compatibility aside, then there is a third kind, mostly from pakistan, “already taken ones”, they are usually taken around 22 years of age. there was this daughter of my father’s friend, also our ex-neighbors from pak, to this very day, my father regrets about missing.

That does not mean, that we are very picky people, it’s just that my father and myself, we honor our mother very much, for the way she’s raised me, and stood for the family. She is respected in the community, I just need someone to take her place as successor. demands from my side are pretty basic.

I hope that answers it yáll.

Vast majority of girls I saw at ISNA fit your requirements. Try the monthly ISNA matrimonial events.

[Qabil]

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@bakhabar

I am a guy, 28, moved to US when I was 12. I have a very good degree, even a better Job, decent share in Family business. I consider myself semi-religious. I speak excellent urdu. I stand 5.7, have very active healthy lifestyle, dont smoke-drink, have a good circle of friends (desi/non-desi).

I am the only son of my parents. My family has been trying to find a girl for me, for quite sometime now. But (honestly) they haven’t come across someone compatible yet. We are just your average Pakistani-American family, who if isolated and put in Pakistan, would fit just right in.

There isn’t girl in family that would be considered for me, due to huge age differences.

Now the big event, when a guy goes to Pakistan for Girl-Hunt, planned by his Shikari relatives is going to happen for me in next two months.

Fair and straigth enough, here comes the tricky part.

At the age of 23 I went completely bald, as I was facing some intense hairfall, so I’d shave my head every two-three weeks. It wasnt a big deal. Things were normal, apart from the fact, that those Pakistani aunties, which you’d normally find in Pakistani Community dinners in universities, never approached me for a rishta. But (on and off), I was hit on by couple of girls.

My view: I dont really care what the world thinks, as long as My career and family is backing it up. I still think I am as much as Pakistani as any other guy (if you just ignore my head )

Now: I have quite a push from my pakistan based relatives to get a hair transplant from US (which I wont in 1000 years), otherwise they can not guarantee my mom a good rishta. (This is sick and funny)

I do have six pack of abs, (which i dont boost, they remain undercover in my modest clothing), so I always reply my relatives (jokingly) my 10 years if trainings should balances my baldness, (pakistani guys dont train like we do in US).

I seriously dont know what to do, to go or not go.

How big really is my problem(problem - in their opinion)? from a Pakistani perspective.
What are my chances to be genuinely considered for a reasonable rishta?

OP bhai. I am a Pakistani man who has never been to US or any other developed or semi developed country. I am a lot older than you, have no degree and what I do for a living is closer to what people call blue collar stuff. Neither my English nor Urdu are exemplary. Although I am a bit taller than you but my lifestyle is far from healthy. And like you, I shave my head every third week.

Despite of this all, I have been and am still getting plenty of rishta proposals, usually from very good families and of girls with much better credentials than mine. It tells that the difference between demand and supply is quite vast here. Hair or no hair, you are a hot catch in these circumstances.

I would suggest you to come here and try your luck. aagay Allah behtar karnay walay hain.

[geminifromkhi]

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@Qabil

OP bhai. I am a Pakistani man who has never been to US or any other developed or semi developed country. I am a lot older than you, have no degree and what I do for a living is closer to what people call blue collar stuff. Neither my English nor Urdu are exemplary. Although I am a bit taller than you but my lifestyle is far from healthy. And like you, I shave my head every third week.

Despite of this all, I have been and am still getting plenty of rishta proposals, usually from very good families and of girls with much better credentials than mine. It tells that the difference between demand and supply is quite vast here. Hair or no hair, you are a hot catch in these circumstances.

I would suggest you to come here and try your luck. aagay Allah behtar karnay walay hain.

Qabil betay, baji is proud of you

[OYMWA]

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@Qabil

OP bhai. I am a Pakistani man who has never been to US or any other developed or semi developed country. I am a lot older than you, have no degree and what I do for a living is closer to what people call blue collar stuff. Neither my English nor Urdu are exemplary. Although I am a bit taller than you but my lifestyle is far from healthy. And like you, I shave my head every third week.

Despite of this all, I have been and am still getting plenty of rishta proposals, usually from very good families and of girls with much better credentials than mine. It tells that the difference between demand and supply is quite vast here. Hair or no hair, you are a hot catch in these circumstances.

I would suggest you to come here and try your luck. aagay Allah behtar karnay walay hain.

You will make a good cheerleader.