I don’t know what to do. Whether it’s a phase, or something we’ve done wrong.
She’s 6.5 months old. She’s always kept her tabs on me, but lately she constantly wants to be with me. When left with her grandparents for a few hours she will scream and cry for most of the time, and even if she calms down or sleeps, she still seems tense and angry. We take along her toys, her food, everything. But still she just cries and screams for long periods of time. When I return and take her, she’s happy and smiling.
Even when she’s with me, sometimes she’s happy to play on her own, but more and more frequently, she wants me to sit with her. The minute I get up to do some housework, she cries, even when in her line of vision. Sometimes I think I’ll let her cry and she’ll calm herself down. But after 20-30 minutes, I just can’t take it any more.
When she’s with her Papa, she’s usually fine too. Sometimes she’ll fuss a bit and ask for me, but she’ll settle down pretty quickly.
It’s interesting too, she sleeps in her crib in her own room and does not cry for us in the morning. I usually let her play for a bit, then get up to feed her.
Doctor also says she needs to be on the floor more. She’s only rolled a couple times, and it seems to be more accidental. She definitely is behind in that regard. So I’ve been leaving her on the floor more often, with a few of her toys or with the play gym. But she doesn’t keep herself entertained for very long.
Sounds like separation anxiety... my daughter went through this phase every single year .... OMG! it was HORRIBLE. Wait for it to pass I guess :( and keep doing whatever you're doing.
And yep, do put her on the floor more, for short spans... babies have a very short attention span anyways. Try the stationery activity gym also.... my daughter used to love that at that age, or get a jumperoo (fisher price has a really nice one), it was my daughter's favorite and she would easily spend 30 mins in it without screaming for me.
IMO its just a phase. 6.5 months is still pretty young, I would just ride it out. Dont give in every time she cries, but go and sit/play with her when you can.
As soon as she starts sitting/crawling/walking, she'd have a million and one things to keep her entertained then...hopefully she'll grow out of the clinginess soon iA.
Also, floor time is great, but dont worry about her being behind in certain aspects. I think thats pretty common with first-borns.
im gonna say it again.. EXCERSAUCER her diaper butt! my son was insanely chipkoo.. whats worse, he even treated his dad like a step dad… he didnt want ANYONE but ME.. i went half insane .. couldnt get jack done around the home without him either fixed to my hip or cryign his littl lungs out…
its just sep anxiety and its not gonna go away antime soon so you better gear up for that… before baby could see you walk away and didnt really knwo what was going on… now the baby not only see you walk away, but thinks you wont come back.. and realizes it has been left behind.. thus starts the crying…
dont giive up… keep leaving her with the in laws and husband… it will do you no good if you give in…
as for the times she wants you all to herself the whole day… put her butt in an excersaucer .. that will keep her entertained (its only if she can hold her head up herself )… if she still whines.. take the excersaucer with you around the house.. its not hard to move around.. oh and u can find ones you can take outside with you… i think most are…
its a really really though phase.. mine continued until my son learned to walk at 10 months.. even when he was crawling he would cry .. hell child u can crawl.. why nto follow?! but nopes!
oh well i am also facing the exact situation with my 10 month old son son. he cant crawl yet and he just wants me to be with him all the time. my cousins came to visit and he didnt want to go to them and during those times he was not willing to go to his dad either. now that i am going to pakistan in a few months i am really concerned how he will react to being among so many ppl.
i feel your pain 