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lol @Sady jaan chor do yaar. I think she got your point.
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Okay.
Only for you :halo:
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Agree with Aaze. Op talk to your parents about should be done in case your sister finds out about the past at a later point.
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From a guys perspective, definitely understand you feeling weird that out of all the girls he had to go for your younger sister especially because of the 8 year age gap he has with her. I had crushes that I have gotten over but if I clearly made my interest known to everyone and then I ended up with the younger sister I would be the one more embarassed. Im sure hes over you and in love with your sister but I bet you inside he’s more embarassed about it than you are. But both of you feeling awkward, is going to make for akward situations at times. He’s likely not going to say anything and I bet you one day once the relationship is more solidified he will in passing mention it to your sister. But you should avoid the topic with him and others outside of your husband and parents. Don’t let this become gossip fodder for your friends and community even if they know, you don’t need to discuss it with them and let them revel in it. It’s difficult whether you should mention it to your sister or not–could back fire either way. That’s more of your parents job than yours.
However, since everyone else knows I would tell your husband about it before he finds out from others. The brain has a powerful imagination and comes up with the most absurd ideas so its better to be upfront to your husband rather than him making up his own conclusions for you not telling him. Tell him he was first interested in you 6 years back but you were never interested in him and how you find it weird/awkward. But no need to get into exact details that would hurt your husband or make him jealous so if you need to downplay some details without lying or hiding that’s okay. Just make it clear you showed him no interest. And ask what your husband thinks about this and how you and your husband should handle this potentially awkward situation together. You know your husband best so hope he is mature enough to have this convo with you without becoming insecure.
I would just keep a respectable distance with your brother in law to avoid any perceived misunderstandings within your own marriage and your relationship with your sister and treat him like any other relative, you don’t need to be his buddy–that’s all you can do unfortunatelty.
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My grans younger sister had a proposal. When the guy came to see her he saw my gran instead and decided he wanted to marry her. And the rest is history. Its all kismet. You’re happily married and your sister and future BIL are happy. Its not weird that he’s ended up with her.
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if it really is bothering you that much that your sister doesn’t know and what would happen if she did.. you can bring it up jokingly and say something like, yeah, ek zamane mein he had a small crush on me, but it never went anywhere, because he was meant to be with you and I am meant to be with my hubby.
if you play the story down, she will know, won’t feel bad about it, and you will feel better about it too.
OR - you can just stay quiet and not say anything and go about your happily married life. cuz this is nothing to even think about. he got over you (as he should have anyway), you both moved on, and the rest is history. if he was doing something indecent NOW (like hitting on you, or trying to look at you in a non-brotherly way)- then it would be a problem, but since that is not the case, there is nothing to think over here in this “situation”
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Just let your sister and husband know. Briefly. You dont want some other community member or relative telling them. It wont be nice and you never know how people may phrase things and exaggerate.
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If I as a guy don’t get rishta for whatever reason, I should leave that locality, leave my friends, leave my social circle, leave my city, perhaps leave my family as well, settle in a new city, under new name and then look for new rishta.
Coz’ I must be weirdo to look for another girl in that same area/social circle + I must be having bad intentions! 
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Agreed. I understand when people are harsh in giving advice if it’s for our own good but some comments on this advice forum are just plain out rude and frankly irrelevant.
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Nah no one said that, but going after a crush’s younger sister who is 8 years younger than him is a tad bit odd though so we are commenting within that context. But doesn’t necessarily mean he’s being indecent.
OP, maybe he is smitten by your family and how your parents have raised you and your sister. He may have been hearing for a while now about how wonderful your family is by his own parents and he got the idea of marrying within your family stuck in his mind. Maybe?
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why can’t you just use him to buy you food 