I am probably not giving good advice, but I would have dealt with it by blowing up as well. I’m not big on patience, and I would probably hunt my brothers down and beat them (we’re really close, too :D) Tough love, baby. He doesn’t give a $hit, and he KNOWS mom is there to catch his fall. So why worry?
I know you’re worried, and there is nothing anyone can say to change that. But he’s 16 and most guys I grew up with…lets just say that they didn’t do the most legal things either. Its the age.
I don’t know if its so much an American thing, or a British thing, or any nationality. In the end, its all about who gets caught and who doesn’t.
Let him suffer. One day he’s really going to come regret what he’s done, and he’ll have to deal with it.
Yeah, I feel guilty too. My mom gets very angry, she’s afraid of badduaein. But they have to grow up sometime. Your mom has to let go, she has to let him fall…there is no reason for him to worry at this point shrugs so a little detention, no big deal. Mom will bail him out or he’ll be out soon. But mom’s won’t i know. My brothers are my mom’s WORLD.
DD, this is the age when kids feel very stiffled, esp. boys. Has your family tried to go together for counselling at all? It could be the family atmosphere that is getting to your brother, and not allowing him to "grow up"... you yourself treat him like a baby bro.. and he doesn't want to be treated like that anymore. Talk to yr mom and dad about going to a counseller. What yr brother does affects all of you, but what all of you do also affects him.
DD, firstly, belated Eid Mubarak to you and yours! :)
I am glad about the safe return of your bro who seems to be struggling with normal teenage rebellious tendencies but pushing them to the extreme, as I can see. I can certainly imagine what you and your family must have gone through on Eid when he went MIA!
My opinion: have a major heart-to-heart with him as the caring sis. Make him see the error of his ways since his actions seem to negatively affect your entire family...that should lay a good enough guilt trip on him to hopefully not repeat his upsetting behavior.
make sure he doesn't get bored.....have him busy with things (he likes).
encourage his positive behaviour. maybe even try talking to his friends once (but not behind his back!).
sis…after all dat u have tried n u still r trying i bet i’d luv to have a baji like u
but keep working n MOST of all..prayyy, praying works more den trying to settle it..but yes pray n INSHALLAH Allah(swt) WILL work out sumfin
wese bhi jo kuch hota hai Allah(SWT) ki marzi se hota hai…so may b wuteva’s happenin rite now kisi na kisi din it mite hit em n he mite realize it n mite stop u kno…inshallah
juz pray n don’t worry, khush raha karo Allah(Swt) sab dekhta hai aur jab wo probz deta hai tou hosla aur solutions bhi deta hai…i kno u mite say it’s hard to do n ez to say…but problems ka kya pata hota hai, they come in all sorts of forms n they go by too…but atleast we can pray n try…
u’v been a great baji Allah(Swt) jald az jald sab kuch theek kar dain ge inshallah..fikar na karo aur Allah(Swt) pe bharosa rakho…balieve me on dat one
