My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need help?

[Reha]

Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother’s life and we don’t know how to rebuild it. Need h

@Farah_Dar

The people who are telling me to work don’t seem to realise that even if I will work and my family becomes financially independent from my brother, nothing will change. My bhabhi is never ever satisfied with what she gets and WILL always ask for more.

And my brother is still confused on whether to divorce her or not. I don’t want to repeat my mistake of forcing him into a decision again, nut he DOES need advice on what to do this time.
And my mother was NOT forcing him into this marriage. She was the only family member who took his side when he was being forced [my mistake, yeah], that is why he is not angry with my mum. However my father has a habit of blaming my mum and her family [which is in Canada] for all the problems in our family and is accusing my mum’s family of doing black magic on us [he is lying, he knows this but swearing at my nanyaal and anyone else seems to give him satisfaction that he didn’t cause any problems].
And whenever my brother tries to not give my dad any money, my dad starts fighting with my mum and threatens to give her talaaq if my brother doesn’t give him any money. So my brother just hands over any money he has to my dad. In fact my father says that the whole drama happening now is my brother’s fault for threatening to divorce my bhabhi during their last fight.This was when she accused my bhai of having never done anything for her. My brother who had been patient with her all this time just felt too hurt and only threatened to divorce her if she didn’t change her behaviour towards him. That is the reason for the current fight between them.

Why don’t you get a job and let your brother care for his family now? Support yourself and do your best to do your part on this planet as a human being and not become a burden. Please don’t assume you have all the answers because your track record proves otherwise.

And no, he doesn’t need yours or anyone’s advice. Personal lives are not about the fights happening in front of you guys - will you be there behind closed doors every single day and night? He needs to figure this out for himself - even if you think he is incapable of it. This needs to be his decision so he can be responsible for it from here on forward.

As for your father, I don’t know why any son would give his father money to stay married to his mother? Does this sound right to you?

Since the issue is mainly your father and not your brother…its best to focus on that.