Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother’s life and we don’t know how to rebuild it. Need h
The reason he can’t be nice to you guys is b/c YOU and your FATHER are the ONLY reason he has been forced to be nice to his wife! If it weren’t for you two, he wouldn’t be married to her to begin with! There was no “sincerity” when you helped your father force the married. Neither one of you cared at all about your brother’s happiness. You’re right that you guys are his “own” family. That’s what gives your brother the right to be furious b/c his own blood forced him into a marriage that he didn’t want b/c of their own greed and selfishness. And how was your bhabi insincere? Her personality stayed the same before and after marriage.
You can sit there and repeat how much your regret your mistake all you want to…but the words above indicate that you have no idea just what a horrible thing you have done. You are totally incapable of relating to what your brother is going through. Once again, its about what you and your family feels.
Then stop focusing so much on what you and the family wants. For once, focus on what your brother feels and support him in whatever decision he makes. Treat him like an adult instead of a child who needs all his decisions made for him. Stop interfering in his marriage. As long as she remains his wife…learn to respect your bhabi. And do your best to lessen the financial burden on him. If you’re in school, then go get a part-time job. If you already have a full-time job, then try to get a 2nd part-time job.
Like I said before, you have no idea how horrible your behavior was before. You’re still just as selfish as you were when you forced him to get married. Once again, you want to find a way to force your brother to do something that he doesn’t want to do. 
Your brother is a grown adult. You and your family didn’t give him a choice when it came to picking his wife. How about you leave him alone and let him decide whether or not he wants to keep the one you forced on him. Providing support to your adult brother on a decision he makes regarding his life…become familiar with this concept that seems to be totally foreign to you.