You need to stop focusing on fatwas that hold no meaning whatsoever. Focus on the fundamentals of Islam and like KC and X2 said, these so called fatwas are just not compatible with what has been stated in the Quran and the authentic Hadiths. These fatwas are man made and often delivered by men who need their manhood validated by spewing such bakwaas. I refuse to believe that even the Shaafi and Hanbali schools of thought have condoned such bizarre behavior. These are just words off the Internet that someone is writing. You should know better than to get your Islamic knowledge off some random Internet fatwas. Ask yourself this: how can anyone stop you from seeing your parents when time and again Quran has ordained you to take care of them. And no, Quran has not differentiated between men and women in that regard.
It seems that you don’t want to acknowledge how ridiculous the husband and the Imam are being when the truth is that their actions and statements have absolutely nothing to do with Islam!