Re: My auntie has a problem..
Agree with Muzna.
Self-efficacy can be developed when a person experiences success (and recognition/praise) in achieving smaller goals. It provides motivation to do better.
You can try sitting down with her and asking her what her goals are. These can include goals around the house…and others as well. Let her give the ideas so that she has more “more ownership” over them…as opposed to just “telling her” what she needs to do. When people feel more “involved” in their decisions…they feel more motivated to carry them out. Praise her for the ideas she come with. Write down the goals and separate them into two categories: short-term goals and long-term goals. Tackle the short term goals first…ask her how she thinks the short term goals can be accomplished…in other words what steps can she take to get them completed. And then help her make a time schedule to complete the small steps that would help achieve the goal. For example, if one of her short term goals is to make cooking more efficient. Then the shorter steps that you can fit into her time schedule can be to visit the store during the week and buy a better cooker…and other things that’ll speed up the process. If she struggles with shopping…maybe go with with her and tell her what things to look for..what to ask, etc. You can try explaining to her that being “sharper” can entail doing things with more independence…(not being reminded or told)…and taking initiative in finding solutions, etc. When she gives ideas…as opposed to telling her the “right answer”…try taking her idea and redirecting it to something better…or with the use of questions…lead her into coming up with better solutions. Overall, this is something that’s going to take time and depends upon the willingness of the person.