My auntie has a problem..

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Re: My auntie has a problem..

@nadz123

my aunty is around 33, shes fairly young, married to the youngest of my dads brothers. she is slow, at everything, be it eating, or working, her mannerism is slow too, and she has been described as a bit dim. she doesnt pay much attention to herself, her appearance, or her house.

ok now shes always been this way, since she married 14 years ago, shes from pakistan, but now she seems to be getting depressed over it. her husbands also slow. they need to be told how to live, they live with their parents, my grandparents, and although they look after them, its things like my gran cant hear, she needs hearing aids, however no one makes the effort. they dont listen to my dad, or other sons. they only listen to the son they are living with, hence why they chose to live with him and not my dad or another child.

now, since other people have got maried, even me,she sees that other people/women are described as clever and fast…( chalak/taIZ) and she has got more and more depressed, esp when people younger than her keep telling her what to do.

she was asking how she can also now be clever and fast…

how would you advise someone like this,

Well I would say that the easiest way to get more “clever” and “fast” is to get a spouse who also pushes you in that direction, but that’s out of the question here.

So the next thing I could suggest is to be in company of such types of people. Watch and learn from them. The next thing is that she should try to do stuff by herself instead of letting others do it for her. Well, I don’t know how much that last part applies. It seems to me that the biggest thing she’s lacking is confidence.