My 13 year old daughter wants to go for a sleepover.

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Re: My 13 year old daughter wants to go for a sleepover.

@HEERANJHA

The thing is, I was never invited to sleepovers at that age. I was told that this was and still is, an English/American custom that kids do as part of growing up. They need their circle of friends and should be given some independance. I don’t agree. You don’t need to send your pubescent daughter to an English girl’s home for a sleepover just to blend in with her circle and get some freedom/independence.

I have explained that eating and drinking from a kafir’s house, especially where there is dirty meat, probably loose immoral talk and chit chat amongst the adults there is not a good environment for my daughter. I don’t think that English people have the best regard to personal hygiene when using the toilets and it is with these hands that they touch everything. I have brought up my kids to keep themselves ‘paak’. Being in school, this is not always possible.

I have explained this to her as well as the fact that anything can happen. I have offered her a compromise, i.e a movie at our house with some mates around or we all go to see a movie.

Not to sound rude,but what will you do if she wants to go to a sleepover to a Muslim kid’s house?I just do not think the explanation of them being kaafir and immoral is an explanation I would give to my daughter.I live in a non-Musim country,I deal with these people on a daily basis and so does my kid.How far will I be able to take this reasoning?
That being said,sleep overs are a no no for my kid,whether boy or girl.When I was growing up,I was not invited to sleep overs but there was other stuff like overnight college trips or BD parties at class mates’ places etc etc.My mother had made it a point that I cannot go except for a few where she knew the other parents personally.I knew it and never fussed over it.Say ‘no’ and just say it s not right.She might get angry and frustrated but that is a part of her age.