Muslims marrying non-Muslims

I don't know that most men specifically look to marry non-Muslims. I think what happens is that they are more comfortable getting friendly with non-Muslim women, because there aren't the same cultural boundaries and restrictions. Even if you are not doing anything indecent, sometimes they are worried that it will be taken the wrong way, and so they are more reserved around Muslim women, and open up around non-Muslim women.

As for the Muslim men can marry Jewish and Christian women, but Muslim women cannot marry Jewish or Christian men, that ruling is clearly a product of centuries of patriarchal bias in interpretation of religious texts. The logic doesn't fly. So either both sexes can marry Jews and Christians. Or they both can't.