is this allowed? Can a Muslim woman marry a man who is not muslim? if not, what are the requirementes ie, would he have to convert?
and if it happens so that she is not allowed, but does so anyway, is her mariage and kids technically not jaiz and haram in the eyes of Islam?
You already know the answers my friend. :(
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wow.. okay.. I know someone who is getting married in a few months, same scenario as I mentioned earlier.. she says how her faith is so strong in Allah, and is always saying her prayers etc etc.. yet, when it came to her marriage, she does not deem it necessary for her fiance to convert.. so I thought that was a bit contradictory . . and please don't get me wrong and I am not judging .. but if your faith is in fact that strong and you believe in Allah's word, then you shouldn't be doing what is correct to get married? I mean, you would be living in sin and your children are najaiz.. tauba tauba ... but that's the reality in which she is in denial.. and that is very sad
I spoke with her today, and she said she is having a hard time trying to find a mulla who will marry her and her fiance and get a nikah since he is Christian.. however, it is possible apparently because other people have done it..
so then that makes me wonder.. if a mulla is marrying a muslim/christian, then how is that possible?? I don't know much about mulla's or their rules etc, but my basic thinking makes me believe the mulla shouldn't be doing that.. but I don't know ? **thoughts?
**and I don't even want to get into the "one mulla said he has married woman-woman and man-man" .. that's what she told me. to each their own. I am just surprised
Muslim woman marrying a non muslim man
Yup. It's a big sin and not allowed in Islam.
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This whole scenario is just getting more and more complex within the muslims living in west in particular. Girls get hooked up with non-muslim fellas and then try to find a way to make it acceptable for families etc. And if they dont find a way they still keep the relationship continued which is far more dangerous than anything we can imagine.
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It's not allowed. It's no wonder she's having a hard time finding someone to perform that nikah. If it were someone I knew, I'd just tell them that given their situation, it would make no difference whatsoever (Islamically) whether they got a nikah done or not.
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In Quran, ALLAH says :
Do not Merry (You men) Muskirika (unbelieving woman) untill they believe, for even a believing slave women is better than a Mushrika, even if you like her. And Do not merry (You Women) muskhrikeen (unbelieving men), untill they believe. A believing Slave man is better than a Mushrik, even if you Like him. These invite to the fire, while ALLAH invites to the Paradise and forgiveness with his Permission and HE clarifies his revelations for the People that they may Remember. (Al-Quran 2:221) . That tells u the story.
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so what about the flip side? is it okay for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman? Christian, Hindu etc??
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Yes, people of the book, i.e. Jewish or Christian.
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Yes, people of the book, i.e. Jewish or Christian.
right, as a part of being ahle kitab .. however, the ahle kitab rule doesn't apply to women, correct?
If she is going to marry a non Muslim, then why is she stuck on trying to do it in Muslim way? She can go for civil marriage, why nikah?
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wow.. okay.. I know someone who is getting married in a few months, same scenario as I mentioned earlier.. she says how her faith is so strong in Allah, and is always saying her prayers etc etc.. yet, when it came to her marriage, she does not deem it necessary for her fiance to convert.. so I thought that was a bit contradictory . . and please don't get me wrong and I am not judging .. but if your faith is in fact that strong and you believe in Allah's word, then you shouldn't be doing what is correct to get married? I mean, you would be living in sin and your children are najaiz.. tauba tauba ... but that's the reality in which she is in denial.. and that is very sad ** I spoke with her today, and she said she is having a hard time trying to find a mulla who will marry her and her fiance and get a nikah since he is Christian.. however, it is possible apparently because other people have done it.. **
so then that makes me wonder.. if a mulla is marrying a muslim/christian, then how is that possible?? I don't know much about mulla's or their rules etc, but my basic thinking makes me believe the mulla shouldn't be doing that.. but I don't know ? **thoughts?
**and I don't even want to get into the "one mulla said he has married woman-woman and man-man" .. that's what she told me. to each their own. I am just surprised
First, the constant mullah word is a bit annoying, why not say Imam? Khair.
1: You can have a strong faith according to yourself and yet not follow every command of His swt, at the end of the day, it's something between the Creator and His slave. The rest of us can only guide and advice.
2: The bold part: It's possible because some people don't mind "converting" on paper - so the Imam is usually told that the guy has converted and hence he will willingly perform the Nikah because for some people it isn't a big deal to shop within religions.
3: I have never heard about any nikah between same sex, and quite frankly I don't even know why they would do it anyway, I'm sure they are aware about what Islam says about homosexuality
4: Muslim men are allowed to marry women who are Christian or Jews. This doesn't apply to muslim women.
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right, as a part of being ahle kitab .. however, the ahle kitab rule doesn't apply to women, correct?
That's right. The exact justification is not explicitly provided in the Quran or Hadith, but scholars point out that in most societies throughout time there is broad social pressure for children to follow the religion of their father.
Hence a Muslim woman married to a non-Muslim would be very likely to be in a position where she would raise children as non-Muslims.
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If she is going to marry a non Muslim, then why is she stuck on trying to do it in Muslim way? She can go for civil marriage, why nikah?
she is doing both. civil - due to legality. nikah - because she is Muslim and that's the Muslim way of getting married
and she is doing is secretly, without her parents present, because they do not know he isn't converting. they think he did convert. they know they are getting married and all, they will just not physically be present for this "nikah" and she is tactfully doing it this way to avoid her parents getting too involved and questioning her.
Yes, the ahl-e-kitab rule doesn't apply to women...i think the reasoning is along the lines of future generations and their religion. We respect Musa (as) and Isa (as) as they're extremely important figures in Islam. For Christians and Jews, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is not. Hence, when a Muslim woman marries a non-Muslim man her religion isn't respected cos kids usually identify themselves paternally, not maternally.
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First, the constant mullah word is a bit annoying, why not say Imam? Khair.
1: You can have a strong faith and yet not follow every command of His swt, at the end of the day, it's something between the Creator and His slave. The rest of us can only guide and advice.
2: The bold part: It's possible because some people don't mind "converting" on paper - so the Imam is usually told that the guy has converted and hence he will willingly perform the Nikah because for some people it isn't a big deal to shop within religions.
3: I have never heard about any nikah between same sex, and quite frankly I don't even know why they would do it anyway, I'm sure they are aware about what Islam says about homosexuality
4: Muslim men are allowed to marry women who are Christian or Jews. This doesn't apply to muslim women.
sorry, there is no real reason why I kept saying mulla instead of Imam. she said Mulla, so I just said that too.
he isn't converting on paper. he isn't converting period.
apparently the same sex marriages are already being performed by Imams..
I was just tryin to understand how it is supposed to be done, Islamically of course..
for example, my own cousin married a Hindu girl. she never converted, nor did he even bring it up.. they now have a son, and he is being raised mainly Hindu and part Christian even (having celebrated Christmas and other various things), because my cousin doesn't enforce any Islamic teachings at home.
that isn't ahle kitab (the marriage).. so isn't that haram too?
Oh everyone already answered...
She can do both, but the Muslim way still won't really 'count' as the terms for nikah aren't being fulfilled. I'm sure one of the rules is the bridegroom must be a Muslim man. Otherwise it's not a nikah. It seems she's doing he nikah out of her own guilt...but it still won't validate her marriage, the Muslim way or whatever she calls it.
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Oh everyone already answered...
She can do both, but the Muslim way still won't really 'count' as the terms for nikah aren't being fulfilled. I'm sure one of the rules is the bridegroom must be a Muslim man. Otherwise it's not a nikah. It seems she's doing he nikah out of her own guilt...but it still won't validate her marriage, the Muslim way or whatever she calls it.
thank you for confirming
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she is doing both. civil - due to legality. nikah - because she is Muslim and that's the Muslim way of getting married and she is doing is secretly, without her parents present, because they do not know he isn't converting. they think he did convert. they know they are getting married and all, they will just not physically be present for this "nikah" and she is tactfully doing it this way to avoid her parents getting too involved and questioning her.
As I said already, in that case Islamically it makes no difference whether she does a nikah or not.
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The following article focuses on this issue, but it mainly centres on some British Muslim women marrying “People of the Book” i.e. individual Jewish and Christian men, as well as their reasons for doing so (further expanded upon in one of the videos).
‘Halal’ interfaith unions rise among UK women – Al Jazeera](‘Halal’ interfaith unions rise among UK women | Human Rights | Al Jazeera)