Re: Muslim woman: Husband made me eat pork
But was it an attempted murder :)
no my reaction would not have been different if the victim of the murder attempt had been female. yes ur right what she did is not justifiable in islam but what about what he did? i dnt understand y he even bothered going all the way to pakistan to find a bride only to treat her like this.
He didn't beat her hence no punishment for him. The solution to their problem was divorce or separation but apprantely the woman didn't want that because of citizenship or money so she thought just get rid of him altogether.
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Its not ez for women to take a stand like divorce or sepration, rem still in pak parents told daughter kay abb uss ghar say tumharaa janazaa hii niklay???????????????if she is been here for only 5 months, she doesnt know how to survive, drive, hav friends?it wud be difficult for her, i can say all this b/c i had a second cousin gone quite a similar bit in her life. I know attempt to murder is a extreme action but ppl go psychotic when they had to live wid mental torture 24/7, she may hav tought kay main tu divorce lay loon gee but yeh bandaa kissi aur ki zindagii kharab karay gaa, anything cud be her reason.
Its not ez for women to take a stand like divorce or sepration, rem still in pak parents told daughter kay abb uss ghar say tumharaa janazaa hii niklay???????????????if she is been here for only 5 months, she doesnt know how to survive, drive, hav friends?it wud be difficult for her, i can say all this b/c i had a second cousin gone quite a similar bit in her life. I know attempt to murder is a extreme action but ppl go psychotic when they had to live wid mental torture 24/7, she may hav tought kay main tu divorce lay loon gee but yeh bandaa kissi aur ki zindagii kharab karay gaa, anything cud be her reason.
yeah she must've thought apnay shohar ka jinaza kyon na nikal doon....and so she became vigilante, how cute.
Reason is she didn't wanna take divorce and go back to pak. you need to have a lot of guts to slit someone's throat, seriously.
He didn't beat her hence no punishment for him. The solution to their problem was divorce or separation but apprantely the woman didn't want that because of citizenship or money so she thought just get rid of him altogether.
so u think he only deserves punishment for physical violence? ru missing the fact that he force fed her pork? and how do u know tht she is only staying for money? didn't u read the part tht she's alone in the country and her family is back home? its easy for us to sit here in our cosy homes and automatically say divorce/separation but its not that easy when ur alone in a foreign country married to a beast.
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oh god… 
so u think he only deserves punishment for physical violence? ru missing the fact that he force fed her pork? and how do u know tht she is only staying for money? didn't u read the part tht she's alone in the country and her family is back home? its easy for us to sit here in our cosy homes and automatically say divorce/separation but its not that easy when ur alone in a foreign country married to a beast.
So you're saying it's much more easy for an adult woman to slit someone's throat than dialing 911 and thus every single pakistani woman out of her country and sick of her husband should do that?
Fact is that she said "her husband didn't force her on a gunpoint and she was happy outside but inside her heart a war was going on"....What does this mean?
You're right, it's easy for us to sit here in our cosy homes and support a person charged with attempted murder.
Fact is that she said "her husband didn't force her on a gunpoint and she was happy outside but inside her heart a war was going on"....What does this mean?
That's just it. We don't know what it means. By her own account, there was no physical violence, but it appears there was emotional and verbal abuse Does this justify what she did? I have no idea. But I know he's not justified either in the way he treated her...physical abuse or no.
Ultimately, only Allah knows because only He saw what really took place and only He knows what's in people's hearts.
For me, this story is a reminder that people in our Indian/Pakistani communities need a serious re-haul in how they think about marriage. It's not ok to encourage your wife to do haraam things - whether or not you use physical force - and it's not ok to threaten to sue her or harm her family. It boggles my mind that anybody needs to be even told that, but that's the state of things in many of our households. And it's not ok to break out the knives either...I totally sympathize that she may have felt threatened and just snapped one day because she couldn't take it anymore, but she's potentially messed up her life with this, now that she's facing the possibility of jail time. People need some serious education about marriage in Islam and women especially need to learn about their options when things go south...especially here in the States. There are SO many options...there are shelters, there are the police, there are social services...our women shouldn't be ashamed of going to these places for help. There's no shame in asking for help when you're in over your head, but we've made it a massive stigma in our community. That needs to change if for nothing else that something like this doesn't happen again.
Re: Muslim woman: Husband made me eat pork
Two sides to every story and without the husband's version, we can't make any conclusions.
For all we know, the woman has mental issues.
Totally agree with you. :k:
Re: Muslim woman: Husband made me eat pork
it doesn't matter that he didn't force her at gun point. according to the article she is a devout muslim woman who has been emotionally abused to the point of depression and forced to eat pork and drink alcohol. no one can justify the fact that she tried to kill him but it's obvious to see that she was driven to this level by her husband. no sane person would want to cut their husbands throat.
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^Inaya and HNK are right. Mental issues are a definite possibility. I'm not saying I don't sympathize with her or that I think that her husband is a saint. I completely feel for her and I'm really not feeling bad for the guy. I'm just looking at this from a very practical perspective. Using mental issues/insanity as a defense is not an easy thing to do. Even if she gets off lightly, she's going to have this on her record for the rest of her life which will have a massive and largely negative impact on her future. I just wish that she felt that she could have reached out to somebody or some organization...I feel really bad for her that she was driven to the point where she felt this was her only option. And it makes my blood boil that there are people out there (i.e. her husband) who feel it's ok to say this stuff to their wives so long as they're "not holding a gun to her head." Again, I would like to emphasize that the men in our community need some serious education on how to treat their wives...just because you don't use your fists doesn't make you husband of the year. The Prophet (SAW) also emphasized "narmi" and kindness in terms of how one should treat one's spouse. Threatening to sue her and hurting her family doesn't fall under the definition of gentleness and kindness. Additionally, the Prophet (SAW) also counseled Muslims that they should always encourage other Muslims to do the correct and Islamic thing. Encouraging one's wife to expose her body and consume haraam substances completely goes against that teaching.
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i just dont get how you FORCE someone to eat pork and drink alcohol?????? i mean literally...if u trick them once ro twice the person should know by then to not let it happen...unless he deliberately held her down or something and forced it down her throat....then i can see her defense of being forced...
i think she' just has mental issues.
Re: Muslim woman: Husband made me eat pork
sister Hareem makes some good points.
There does seem to be a lot missing from this story. The guy comes across a class A jerk but doesn't deserve to have his throat slit unless he truly an apostate.
The woman seems to definitely have mental issues. I still don't see how this guy can compel her to do all of these unIslamic things, particularly since I assume they were done outside the house.
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I am not buying her story. Something just isn't right!
Re: Muslim woman: Husband made me eat pork
Theres always a better way to end things than cutting somones throat...
And i can't believe people are sypmathizing with this monster! She could have left him, seek advice of someone from the local mosque, get divorced and seek legal help like a normal human. She was a total monster, I really hope she does some serious time in prison.
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I heard about this from my co-worker. I was shocked, but I wasn't all ready to fully believe her like my co-worker was defending her. I'm sure we'll see more evidence or info. coming out of this story. It's so sad.
it could have been as easy as dialing 911 and his ass would have been in jail for harrassment amongst many other things.
You would be surprised at just how many people are not aware of this option. Especially in the UK where you have a significantly higher number of uneducated and socially handicapped import spouses.
Two sides to every story and without the husband's version, we can't make any conclusions.
For all we know, the woman has mental issues.
My thoughts exactly.
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It's 999 in the UK in case anyone wanna dial it.
Re: Muslim woman: Husband made me eat pork
^ Everyone please take heed of this advice asap if u r currently entertaining throat slitting tendencies... DIAL NOW, IT COULD HELP YOUR DEFENCE CASE LATER!