Has anyone ever heard of or tried this? Does it work? How would you improve it?
gosh ! looks like a tension workshop :D
who scores?
who has potential?
who will be accepted?
who will trust who?
wow can this event be fun?
I think it would be tough
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How is it dating? It sounds more like match-making. Article is not well written at all.
Did they call it dating?
Well I think that some people call it “Muslim Speed Intros”
Asian / Desi Muslim Shadi / Speed Dating
And I think its understood that it’s the Islamic version of dating which is basically
meeting and getting to know each other (preferably in the presence of Maharam) for the purpose of getting married…
Personally I think it’s an ok way for people (with good/pure intentions) to find a future mate…no?
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the writer is a jackass, the tone of the article is pretty pathetic.
if this was a journalist writing about cultural differences and ow people are balancing different aspects of identities he would have seen a few events and spoken to more people than those he then parades as caricatures.
what happened to the good old days when NY times writers just pretended they went to venues :)
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Speed dating makes me think of a rishta parade on speed- minus the parents.
I think if you were to improve it, maybe have small events and group people together who you will hit it off (silimilar profiles) otherwise it would be a let down and dare I say a waste of time.
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I went to one in the UK (on my friend's insistence) and I felt like shooting myself afterwards.
It's a complete waste of time.
the writer is a jackass, the tone of the article is pretty pathetic. if this was a journalist writing about cultural differences and ow people are balancing different aspects of identities he would have seen a few events and spoken to more people than those he then parades as caricatures.
what happened to the good old days when NY times writers just pretended they went to venues :)
Exactly.
I was being extra polite to the writer.
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draw your conclusions in 7 mins, next!
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Many people cannot even decide to get married even after years of dating, living together, having children etc. What's next?
I know a woman who lived with a guy for 8 years...he finally got married to her, divorced her in next few weeks. The woman was crying telling her story, saying why did we even get married!
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That's because there is a huge difference in dating someone and being married to them. First is fun, second is work. First is an acquaintance you can be free with, second is FAMILY who you need to treat like FAMILY.
Best way someone has put it. :k:
I think this is the reason marriage is failing in the West. In England for instance the amount of people that marry has gone down ridiculously and the ones that DO marry have unbelievable divorce rates (I do Family Law)! :o
As for speed dating, its ridiculous.
^ Actually that’s not true, altho fewer ppl are marrying divorce rates have gone down.. Also in parts of Saudi Arabia divorce rates are 60%, far higher than in the West.. it’s too simplistic to say Western or European marriages fail more than in other parts of the world or that arranged marriages are more likely to work (funny how often I hear that)..
Divorce rate falls to 29-year low | Mail Online
..and nothing wrong with Muslim ‘speed dating’ imo, why spend an hour meeting one guy when u can meet 20 
Speed dating makes me think of a rishta parade on speed- minus the parents.
I think if you were to improve it, maybe have small events and group people together who you will hit it off (silimilar profiles) otherwise it would be a let down and dare I say a waste of time.
Same here.. I know some of the stricter Muslim ones do require the girls to turn up with a guardian and there are events geared towards professionals etc and for those who are a bit racist they do Pakistani only, Bengali only etc as well as converts only.. don't think it sends out quite the right message tho, esp if they're being organised by Muslim groups, I mean can u imagine 'Whites only' speed dating..
I didn’t say whether divorce rates have gone up or down all I said was that the few people who do marry have ridiculous divorce rates (even if it has been low compared to previous years the amount of divorces are STILL pretty bad) 
And the marriage rates have also been very low ( National Statistics Online).
Weestern marriages fail because of the costs involved in marrying (Weddings, divorces etc) and because people don’t commit nor make compromises.
Same here.. I know some of the stricter Muslim ones do require the girls to turn up with a guardian and there are events geared towards professionals etc and for those who are a bit racist they do Pakistani only, Bengali only etc as well as converts only.. don't think it sends out quite the right message tho, esp if they're being organised by Muslim groups, I mean can u imagine 'Whites only' speed dating..
Problem is that if you open it entirely to any kind of muslim, then you have the freaks showing up. I'm involved now in some Pakistani organizations, and I prefer those to "muslim" organizations, because you never know what radical is going to get involved in the muslim organization. Cultural organizations specific to a country will ensure no Arab influence infiltrates, and therefore, the level of conservatism stays low and reasonable.
^ Defo true in the US but in the UK it's the Pakistanis who tend to be the 'radicals' (that's prob the politest way I can put it) :D
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But under the banner of "Speed dating" will 'radicals' really show up?
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when i was single, my friend dragged me to one of those speed dating events. its bascially 4-5 round tables, with around 8 girls on one side, and 8 guys on the other side. and there is a male and female moderator. everyone at the table would introduce themselves (Hi! IM so and so and X years old and i work as a whatever). The MC of the program would do a little speech and start off the program by asking a thought provoking question. then each table would discuss the topic. It is optional to say something. I remember just crossing my arms (which my friend told me NOT to do) and listened to everyone else. so by the time 10 minutes go by, the guys rotate - meaning all the guys from our table would go to the next table, and a new set of guys would come and join us. And again, the MC would ask a question and the coveration begins.
At the end of the night, there is a meet and greet. its basically pple just talking. if ur interested in someone, u would go ask one of the moderators who would then go up to that person and ask if they would want to talk to u or not. The person has the option of saying no as well.
I know a couple of people that got met this way and ended up getting married.
for those of u in the toronto area, IMO is holding an event called IMAP on Sat March 6 at 1pm. one of my friends is the moderator.