I have never been to one. And currently being pressured by family to attend one. I just hate whole concept of it. Is there anyone here who has attended these events? What is it like?
Also came across this article:
Do you guys agree with the opinions of the author? why?
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I don't live in the UK, so I can't agree or disagree with what she describes is going on there in terms of an imbalance in terms of numbers. I do however, disagree with this:
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Muslim women, unlike men, are restricted as to whom they can marry. Marrying men outside the faith is only considered permissible in most communities if the men convert.
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Even here, out of the men I know who've married people of the book, it is such a small number. One factor she didn't mention is why those women weren't married into their 30's. Did they purposely delya for something or just couldn't get anything when they were younger?
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answer to captain obv is for me yes wen me and my sis were younger we were in a town with no other Pakistani's for miles around and my parents knew no one. Then on top of that wen we were younger my parents had much more bigger and serious issues going on in life that demanded their attention at that time. I don't blame anyone or anything for what's happened to me except that it was what was written for me, so Alhumdulilah,for everything and insha Allah for what is best for me.
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Women are gettin' some book learnin' these days, damn their brains.
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What about non-muslim events? I bet the stats are similar ..
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No. I think non-Muslims are more progressive than our lot.
Definitely a huge gender ratio difference - I've tried to sign up for a few of these but then I back out when I see the desperate emails of - we need more guys to sign up!
Some of these events actually give guys financial discounts just so they can get more men to sign up. The ones I looked into, within a few weeks the ladies quota was filled and they were denying entry to more girls but the emails keep coming askin for more guys to sign up.
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Actually one fact that gets overlooked is that these events are hard to attend. Most are offered once or twice a year, out here in the States. They charge a few hundreds of dollars for admission to the event. Well some. Not sure about ISNA but the Pakistani and south Asian oriented ones are costly. And third it's in one city so anyone outside that city has to fly in so factor in flight an hotel costs. Plus, it's on a Friday or Saturday, so anyone that works, like uh, men? Maybe have difficulty making time in their schedule. I know with my weekend work I've even missed events in my own city.
Whereas a lot of girls make more time for this stuff, maybe theyre not career people so they have time, maybe mummy daddy pay for the cost of the trip whereas for a single guy who might be feeding his parents, cost might be an issue.
So maybe that's why there are fewer guys.
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i think you should post your profile here ;)
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I have seen a non-muslim event and the situation was opposite i.e. more males than females.
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^^Exactly. You should see all these advertisements of the events for non-muslims. Females can usually go free. I think samething for their dating websites. And it is the complete opposite in our culture. It is just sad. Also, what if you think more than 1 person is a good match? Do you talk to all of them to see where it goes?
@PCG I actually read a thread somewhere, and the guy said he has been asked to go to this event for free because they just need to fill the required number of males.
So I guess no one had any experience attending these? Or maybe they just don't want to admit it :).
Anyway, there is no way in hell I am going to these events lol. I have made that clear to my family.
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What's wrong with them? If I could afford them and had time, I'd go. I was always working when there was an event or the ticket prices were too high.
I came across an event recently which was crazy. 300 bucks. And they give you a museum tour, fancy dinner and reception, and a tour of the city or something. I think it was NYC I wanna say? Thats just for the event. It's spread over two days I think. I was trying to get a guy friend to go with me and he was refusing - too expensive for him, which is true because with tickets and hotel the cost of the trip easily could have been 600-700 dollars.
I didn't end up going, I met someone else. Plus turned out I was working that weekend anyway.
So you can see why these events aren't so successful. What guy has time and money for this?
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Website dating whether we like it or not, is actually easier but definitely has more fraud. But way cheaper. I’d say that GS with its heavy moderation could actually pull off a matrimonial website, even make some money off it. But Azkar never listens :pcg: