Re: Muslim boys or girls be allowed to go to prom ? Split: What are your summer plans
There's prevention, and there's controlling. You have to let your children live life, while providing them the right morals at the same time. Kids will do what they want, regardless of what their parents tell them.
My parents didn't prevent me from doing much (though they did make it clear that they didn't want me bringing any boys around, which was quite fine with me considering how they raised me), and having been given that freedom I did not abuse it. The more pressure you put on someone, the more likely they are to try to break free of it.
I understand that. Nice to know that you managed to uphold your parents trust, but the point remain, not every kids thinks of their parents before they do indulge in a sin.
I have many, many examples around me where parents gave their kids freedom + telling 'em ke ham pakistani/ muslim haiN so no dating, that approach to these kids didn't work quite as well... I do not wish to go into detail but I will say it again, at a young age, shaitan sticks to us and bugs us from every angle... and most kids havn't reached the maturity required to decipher the good from the bad (read sin), that is why it is benificial to open doors which they may regret later.
I am not saying that every person who attends the prom turns out "bigrha hua", i'm just saying that its one of the many places where getting "bigrha-fied" is relatively easier.