If dad’s side of the family phone when mums side of the family are having sunday dinner with you. Mums side of the family get pissed at you for talking to them.
They don’t get along…but ever since dad passed away and they realised their mistakes, dads fam. have tried to ask for forgiveness, but nope mums side of the family (her bros) don’t care,
I know that dads family done wrong, but afterall they are my own blood right? I cam’t stay mad at them. I have to talk to them if they wna talk to me and ask how done in exams and etc etc.
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I can identify with the problem of mum side not getting on with dad side. We are much closer to mum side, but of course have to keep relationship with dads side. And so it continues, my daughters are closer to my side rather than hubby's.
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hey sweetie,
hang in there. You are doing the right thing. Its funny sometimes our grown-ups can think n act worst than todays’ teenagers. Yes, you might feel like you are disobeying your elders but in reality you are not. So, yes keep in touch with both sides. I know its REALLY hard to deal with such situation at your age specially but you can do it n you are doing it. Think like this, if your father was alive Im sure he wouldnt want u to cut off with his family .. right? Keep in touch with em and as long as your mom is happy then all is good. And even at times when mom end up acting same way as her bros then its your job to make her understand wat is right. You can do it .. I know
Props to u girly .. props to u I have gr8 respect for u :k:
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I think its a common problem and almost every1 faces it baring a few lucky ones :). I think you are the best judge here…decide for yrself. Don’t listen to either side and just treat them the way they treat you. If they r nice to be nice to them…if they have done bad in past but regret that than be a bigger person and appreciate their acknowledgemet of having done bad 2 u and being sorrie for the same…u know how hard it is 2 acknowledge yr mistakes and say sorrie. I am sorrie but i think your mum’s family is being unnecessairly rude here…how does it affect them if you want to have a clean start with yr dad’s family?. People tend to get very possessive n these cases but you have to make a wise decision and let them know that you owe it to your other family to give them a chance to renew your relationship. All the best and please dont stay quiet in this sitation let every1 know how you feel about this.
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If dad's side of the family phone when mums side of the family are having sunday dinner with you. Mums side of the family get pissed at you for talking to them.
I know that dads family done wrong, but afterall they are my own blood right? I cam't stay mad at them. I have to talk to them if they wna talk to me and ask how done in exams and etc etc.
While I understand and sympathise that the politics that desi families often have going on is really frustrating, I have to ask 2 questions.
1) Does you mum's side live with you, or were they visiting for Sunday lunch
2) Does your dad's side live nearby or abroad?
Because leaving your guests during dinner to go and talk on the phone is a severe breach of polite etiquette under all but extraordinary circumstances, and can be construed as insulting your guests.
Extraordinary circumstances include expensive long distance calls from family members in far-off timezones.
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mums side of the family (her bros) stay with us but we have like a sunday get together every week since they go to work late. Dads side of the family live in pakistan so its kind of difficult for them to phone us.
Yesterday my chachu phoned asking about how everyone was and its really rude for my mamo's to call stuff out about them whilst im on the phone and he knows my chachu can hear.
Just one freaking sunday wont make a difference to the world.
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Grrr..thats a common problem..but you need to talk to both and respect both. Since your dad passed away..you need to keep his side of the family close too, i am sure he would want that. I think you are a strong girl..do the best that you can! hugz
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MahamS thanks n ur right.
You are welcome girl!!! It's great that irrespective of the pressure of the family you are perhaps closer to, you are able to see the right and the wrong. You GO GIRL!!!:) .
