You're missing the point. Even marrying another woman openly is an open statement that his first wife is not good enough for him.
A second wife takes half of his time, a mistress may only take 3% of his time. He is taking half of his money (which was once for the first wife and her household and children), and giving it to another. He is dividing his time as a father (thus, the children see less of their father and have to rationalize why he doesn't love mommy enough that she's his only wife), and he strips them of their inheritance rights if he has children with another woman. He strips the first wife of her status, and brings her public shame.
It's theft of love and rights. Man and woman were created to be a couple. You can't be as close as clothes for eachother if you've got a whole closet to cover.
I'd rather my husband cheated on me.
I dont know what to say.
I know that you are not supporting guys cheating on their wives and marely stating your choice if you have to choose one but still ...
If I was a woman, my choice would be opposite of yours.
Just hope that neither of these scenarios happen. Why are we even discussing this horrible thing anyway!
He knows better than to do it anyway. Cuz if he did, I'd take all his money and be as vindictive as possible. He wouldn't have a shoe left to his name once I finished with him :D
Mistresses usually are home wreckers, cause their demand is pure selfish. They dont care about the stability of household of the guy or care about the guy as much as his wife would.
Second wife would at least care about the mental and physical well being of the guy (at least more than the mistress would) because even her future is depending on the physical and emotional stability of that guy.
God forbid the guy's physical and emotional stability be jeapordized. . .
i consider having a mistress is more betray then having a legal second one
in hindu marriage you can have a second wife only when first legally agrees
That's cool. Then you can take half of what was legally the right of the first wife and give it to another women. then you can take half of the man's inheritance that was the right of the first wife's children and give it to another woman's children.
yes, the previous generation, my friends father married to his mothers sister
the legal agreement is considerd only when the first is impotent or cannot have children ( this is the reason in most of the cases) its almost like a divorce to the first one
Just hope that neither of these scenarios happen. Why are we even discussing this horrible thing anyway!
Hooray for Niksik! My sentiments exactly. While I DO think that there can be honorable reasons for taking on more than one wife, I have NEVER seen it put into actual practice. Every multiple marriage that I have seen or heard of is due to nothing more than the guy cant keep his pants zipped. And they justify it by hiding behind their religion which makes it even more disgusting.
I would be the first one to applaud a man for taking on a second wife for honorable reasons. I'd let my own hubby do it (actually I almost did when I was suffereing from infertility). I just havent seen or heard of an honorable multiple marriage.
While I DO think that there can be honorable reasons for taking on more than one wife, I have NEVER seen it put into actual practice. Every multiple marriage that I have seen or heard of is due to nothing more than the guy cant keep his pants zipped..
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I just hate to say that .. but no matter what religiousand noble justifications, one hides behind .. this is the only reason why Islam permits it.
Every other reason is just our social bull crap to justify our sex hunger.
One can easily support widows and oprhans without getting in bed with them.
Yes that is true. Yet there are sadly some societies on our planet which require that a woman be escorted by a man. So to go out and earn a living as a widow would be next to impossible in that case.
There are also, sadly, women who are not able to bear children.
Those two cases are really the only ones that I would be accepting of. I mean, there would also be - God/Allah forbid - war or famine but that goes well beyond whats being discussed here.
Yes that is true. Yet there are sadly some societies on our planet which require that a woman be escorted by a man. So to go out and earn a living as a widow would be next to impossible in that case.
There are also, sadly, women who are not able to bear children.
Those two cases are really the only ones that I would be accepting of. I mean, there would also be - God/Allah forbid - war or famine but that goes well beyond whats being discussed here.
Last time I looked, it didn't mention infertility in the Quran as a reason that polygamy could be practiced. However, orphans and widows were specifically mentioned.
Saying that a man can take another wife because his first wife is infertile means that her only value is based on her body. Women aren't meat, and you shouldn't view yourself as such.
Last time I looked, it didn't mention infertility in the Quran as a reason that polygamy could be practiced. However, orphans and widows were specifically mentioned.
Saying that a man can take another wife because his first wife is infertile means that her only value is based on her body. Women aren't meat, and you shouldn't view yourself as such.
Ohio economy is not doing very good nowadays. Think twice before you feel comfortable about your ‘this is how I will get back at him’ plan.