guppies i am really anxious at the moment, In a couple of weeks i will be meeting my fiance's siblings. Speaking SACHE DIL SE... im really nervous, my fiance is in his surgery residency currently mA, his brother and sister are already surgeons. To be honest im very intimidated, Im finishing up my bachlors im only 21 and even though i do very well Allhumdulilah i feel as if the siblings will say something because they are married doctors and their brother chose me. I am planning on doing my Masters in Public health Adminstration. I have not met them thats why im feeling this way. Moneywise my family owns mutiple business and are well off mA but i feel as if money doesnt play a part as much as Education does in their eyes. I could be just making all this up in my head since i havent met them
Guppies how do i calm myself down and not feel intimidated please help karo
Honeyah, what's the faida/benefit in getting so worked up when you don't even know his siblings yet? You're getting stressed out over assumptions which may even turn out to be false, and this stress is not going to help you.
So, instead, why don't you focus on the POSITIVES that you DO KNOW about....as opposed to dwelling on negative guesswork. This guy CHOSE you.....so he saw something amazing about you.....enough to consider MARRYING you. That's a pretty huge decision/deal. He obviously was impressed enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you. And therefore he must have told his family GOOD things about you. And even if his siblings do have reservations/doubts about..........at the same time they also have positive points about you (which they heard from their brother) in their minds as well. So, think about this.
You're educated. You're not a surgeon....BUT....you're still getting your Master's Degree in a field that's related to the medical profession. So, don't feel self-conscious about not being a surgeon yourself. Differences make things exciting. Too much similarity can make for boredom. And I think the guy himself realizes that as well. Another positive point-of-view to consider.
His family is OPEN to meeting you. It's not one of those situations where the guy tells his family about a girl he likes......and the entire family rejects the girl WITHOUT even meeting the her......let alone talking to her family over the phone. There have been cases of such closed-mindedness. This is not the case with you.....his family is open/willing to meet you. Something else to reflect over.
So what if your parents make a living through business? Businesses help toward the growth of the economy. They're not doing anything illegal. Contributed toward raising you. Be proud of it. Again, I'm sure his family already knows these details about your family....and they haven't shot you down for this particular detail....cuz like I said, they're willing to meet you.
Be polite, courteous...answer their questions...also make the effort to talk to them. Be yourself...the person the guy fell in love with. Maybe tell your BF that you feel a bit nervous meeting his parents....and perhaps discuss a few of your fears with him. He could calm you down...reassure you....in the process you could learn a little bit about his family. You'll be fine. Pray to Allah to do what is best for you.
honeyah well it sounds lil bit scary… but hunny u r only 21 wht did u do?? bachlors only ryt?? and u r gonna do masterz IA ryt… soo dontt worryy u r young and they knw dat… jus be confident and act mature lol u will be fine IA
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