Re: Moving too fast?
Easier said than done. Went to new york with my mom recently, we had fun. It’s not like I don’t do things I enjoy. I keep up with my gym and my shopping, my only two lingering hobbies. I don’t like to read books anymore. I keep up with my TV shows on hulu, and I watch movies occasionally.
But everything I do, has to be done for the most part, solo. That’s how it is for girls in their 30’s who are alone and career women. We have our careers to occupy us, and then in our spare time we have some fun, but when you’re single, what entails “fun” is v. different than what entails “fun” as a married woman.
Married women I work with in their spare time are spending time with their husband and their kids, and doing fun things that revolve around families.
When you’re single, a lot of that you can’t do, or if you do it, you’re doing it alone.
I don’t know about you, but going to Disney isn’t fun alone. Traveling really isn’t fun when you’re wandering around alone. It’s also not entirely safe either. I don’t feel safe traveling to forests and natural parks alone, you never know if you’ll end up getting raped or kidnapped. I can’t go to Umrah/Hajj alone. I can’t travel to Pakistan alone and stay there alone safely - tried doing it recently, experience was scary, not sure if I want to do it again any time soon. Eating dinner at a restaurant - difficult if alone. Some places are more friendly to single diners than others. I can walk into a movie theatre and watch a movie alone, but I leave feeling like a loser.
These activities would all be more fun if I wasn’t alone. All I can do alone and not feel bad about is 1. gym and 2. shopping.