Moving too fast?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Moving too fast?

slow down whole process.

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Well we can't say for sure but maybe he had a change of heart? Maybe the other things he liked in your daughter over weighed this one thing and that made him compromise on it? And you did mention that he talked to your daughter about making the family a priority over work, so maybe he is just going to manage with this compromise?

I can understand you being the father must be having all kinds of thoughts and rightly so. I think you should take your time and if need be, ask the guy what made him compromise on this? maybe his answer will satifsy you.

Good-luck :) Allah sab k naseeb achey kare, Aameen.

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Hi indeed it is tough call for us.

I have done everything possible by meeting him outside nothing come as red flag. Here is various reports covering his conduct at work place for past 7 years 1st one from a very good friends about him:-

"Dear ... bhai

My ex-colleagues who sits next to .... is also a very close friend of mine. His name is XYZ....

XYZ has checked with 1 of his ex-colleagues at ..... As per him, .... behaves like an elder in the family hence the shows high level of maturity. He does have the desire to grow in his career but would most probably not use .... and will not behave selfishly. His friend also endorsed my earlier feedback that he does not consume alcohol and as far as having fun is concerned,.... likes outdoor activities etc. Maybe what you wanted to check about his past liaisons with girls did not reveal any details because of his brought up etc.

XYZ finds him to be a good business manager and good at his job. He generally likes ....

XYZ did make it a point that it would be upto the two families to know more about each other. You can understand that finding about the background of someone and then saying something positive is also not easy since it is someone future that we are talking about. Irtaza and I are both parents of young children and ....'s future is all the more dear to us hence it is advisable that you have discussion with .....and the family.?

And another one (an ex employee who worked with him, i didn't asked him directly as he left us less then amicable circumstances, a mutual friend help me the get this feed back:-

"The guy is not confrontational. To the best of our knowledge does not indulge in drink etc. He was more of a listener at ...."

Here is a feedback from a place which he left 5 years ago:-

"however he was not directly reporting to me. To my knowledge and feedback is positive and clean boy and Allah knows all about people."

Can groupies help to decipher these?

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I"m not frightening you but telling you some facts but Dude one of my elder cousin who is the most innocent & nice guy among all of my cousins married 3 times :smack2: He divorced his 1st wife after 12 years, 2nd one after 1 years and now living happily (i guess) with 3rd wife in Canada. So Sharafat is not a guarantee that girl will live happy. Its her destiny so cross your finger and Ask Allah that whatever be in favor her be done!