moving to pakistan to live with in laws

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@PyariCgudia

Did you grow up outside Pakistan? I’d suggest you not move back so easily.

Take it like this. You first decide WHERE you want to live and WHERE you’d be happy. Then try finding a guy THERE.

To move back to Pakistan is going to require a HUGE CHANGE.

On your part.

Just be careful and dont come crying back when it turns out they’re a nightmare. Live in Pakistan because YOU WANT to, not because of a boy.

^ no no iv always lived in england…a friend sed to me not being with someone just because u cant decide to live is very petty…sooo…hmmm…

p.s thanks for the crying nightmare bit lol..fills me with confidence lol

@Deeba1234

Yes:

'Scholars advise that after marriage, the husband and wife should live in a separate place of residence if possible. If the newly wed want to move out and the parents don’t let them, then this will be a form of oppression by the parents. Not only that, but **scholars even go to this extent that even if the atmosphere is good at home between the mother in law and the daughter in law, the husband still should move out because of the many marriages which break up due to the mother in law/daughter in law conflicts.

It is un-Islamic to think that we HAVE to live together with our parents after marriage. In the book I have in front of me right now, it says that that is a Hindu custom and is has no basis in Islam.’

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Source: Mother in law: Demanding & interfering she wants to know all the intimate detail

Also check out: Islamic View on the Extended Family System - IslamonLine.net - Ask The Scholar

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If the man can’t afford seperate housing the absolute minimum he is meant to provide for his wife is a bedroom with a lock on the door, seperate bathroom and kitchen. If he can’t even manage that I guess he’s not in a position where he’s ready to get married. There are also loads of Islamic issues apart from the obvious family disputes that tend to happen, MIL/DIL not getting on, such as husbands brothers being non-mehrams, if the new wife wears hijab/jilbaab/burqa she’d have to keep it on practically all day etc.

^wow very interesting…i never knew this was the case…i think if i do decide to go ahead i will ask for the bare minimum.. he doesnt have any brothers so i guess i dont have to worry about brother in laws etc

@Amour

I personally dont like very individual westernised life, parents in law should be respected and cared like one care for her/his own parents. really dont like the idea love the hubby, hate the in laws!

i actually do understand this and actually agree with it…but its different to think about it now…as in me in that situation

@Shum23

You should’nt woryy.. everybody has cook at home these days.. its not like you would be washing and cleaning and cooking alll the time. Nobody live their lives in luxury as well to do people in pakistan Plus if you make this small “sacrifice” your husband will love you even more for this.

lol thanks shum..!!! this is what everyone has been saying to me…but i dont want to be constantly reminding him what i did ‘for him’