You will learn to live with them and they will learn to live with you.
You will figure out what they like and do your best and vice versa.
No girls comes fully programmed as the perfect wife and daughter in law, you learn with time and adjust according to the family and your husband…as do they.
Your job is to make the effort as much as you can to learn, adapt and just be nice. Eventually, they will forgive your shortcomings and even help you out.
On a side note, he is an only son. Living with his parents is a given and should not be a surprise to you at all. Eventually, this would have been his responsibility regardless of the location…UK or Pakistan.
its just the initial adjustment period that frightens me..cos i will be getting used to him AND his family..and ur right i shouldnt be shocked i dnt even no y i didnt thnk…
Exactly. Cute mother in law also deserves a willing daughter in law. Show her you are willing to learn.
You could also perhaps try a few dishes before you get to Pakistan.
Desserts is a great place to start, everyone loves desserts.
hehehe desert yum…lol i think il ask my mum to teach me the basics…they may not react too well to the fact i dnt know how to cook
hey
well im in the same sort of boat…however i can sort of cook…anyway point is…
i think living with in laws is something you shudve assumed, why are you shocked…its obvious if hes the only son, and if he cares for his parents and is a decent bloke, well its good that hes wanting to live with them…where did you expect them to go…? IM sure you would want your son to remain with you once your in their situation..
secondly…dntwry much for cooking/cleaning if they are reasobly well off itl be done for you…i love cooking…and once you know how, you will too..
i was just like you, scared of pakistan and its lifestyle…and worried my independence would be taken away..and my clothes changed…well
nothing like that happend…yes clothes change a little…but i prefer it there..while i was unmarried and here in the uk, i was adamant no one would take me out of my jeans and sweats, however once there, i loved wearing salwar kamiz all the time and felt most comfy…i also like the shopping lifestyle there, things are cheap, theres a mass variety and it really is fun…yes ok so things like popping out for some milk on your own is abit absurd cos the milk comes to the house…lol…but seriously…i didnt have to lift a finger, everything was done for me..no housework…the workers did it…and even when i cooked, the worker cut the onions and tomatoes for me..i was in heaven…
seriously i cant wait to live there soon, and i think youll change..
if you read my posts back…before july..ul see a very diff nadz…trust me…
ye ur right i mean i believe what goes around comes around..so if we dnt take care of them no one else will look after me…
also i dnt mind not wearing jeans etc..i prefer shalwar kameez anyway///