Re: Moving out of in laws
Yes I agree, now she has patched things up with her husband a bit and seems to be okay with us. I over heard her talking to her daughter few weeks back that husband isn’t changing and that it’s not an environment where we can bring up children because of the atmosphere. Yet she had the cheek to say to me before that because she and her husband don’t argue infront of us it shouldn’t affect me or my husband and I have no right to say I should have been told about their relationship before marriage. But to her daughter she acknowledges that there is an atmosphere n children can’t be bought up in it. It’s a flipping joke. She was also saying that if her husband doesn’t change that her “ghar” gets ruined. Think she was referring to the fact that my husband and I would move out to have a family. Over hearing that made me so angry.
Fastforward a month and it was rakhriyan, day before her daughter was round and they called me into the room. MIL asked what time I would be going to my brothers. I said as soon as my SIL goes. She said that’s a good reply. And then said okay when you go to see your brother you will wear a suit. She was laughing saying it but I knew she was serious. I refused in an equally laughing way and she got more loud asking why. I explained that there was not a need to as my parents wouldn’t expect me to come in a suit and if I was going to their relatives then I would. SIL was sitting there and asking why why so I got assy with her and said no. MIL started comparing me to other daughter in laws in her family and then said to me that her and my FIL are lenient with me let me come and go as I please and don’t say anything to me!! As if I’m a child!! She then didn’t speak to me for a week and would ignore me Infront of my FIL SIL and husband. My husband could see this but didn’t address it which is fine. Fast forward another month and she sent my husband and I to Dubai for our first anniversary. It’s s nice thought but naturally I was reluctant to go because of the way she is. Since we been back she’s been okay. I think she missed us. But I can’t help thinking maybe she isn’t too bad and can’t be that selfish if she’s sent us on holiday. But I don’t feel comfortable like I know she will throw it in my face the next time she’s angry with me. Also feel like she did it for her son more than me I just feel torn, one min she’s being a cow not talking to me over wearing English clothes the next she’s sending me Dubai. One min she’s making my life hell the next she’s okay. I can’t work her out. I defo think she wants everything her own way and also she shows off a lot so she will now tell everyone loudly that she sent us Dubai. She has high standards so something she gives is always extravagant. I can’t help but think she’s buying us. I don’t know. Meanwhile, I don’t trust my husband to make things okay anymore. I know it’s hard for him too and he can’t do much but he knows something’s upsetting me and stopping me feeling myself he just avoids talking about it. He’s done this for a year and I just think he can’t possibly care about me if he can see me declining and he doesn’t make the effort to sit me down and talk. I feel like it’s easier for him that I’m upset rather than his mother because I don’t make it eceryone else’s problem. I guess I’ve lost faith in him.