Moving out of in laws

[Deeba1234]

Re: Moving out of in laws

@Ss91

She just has backward views like the daughter in law should take care of everyone’s needs and if anyone’s sad it’s my job to make sure they are all happy, sort out the arguements and intervene if someone is Shouting at her. funny thing is she keeps pointing out that it’s a live marriage and she had no obligation to tell me their family dynamics before I lived there i.e that her and her husband don’t talk etc. but it’s my responsibility to sort it out. .

This is a huge problem imo.. I have relatives and friends whose parents are in a similar situation.. What I’ve noticed is that instead of attempting to resolve the issue (or separate) the mothers simply divert their attention to their sons.. I kinda feel the standard advice people give when wife and husband are having problems or not getting on in our culture (put all your focus on the kids instead) contributes to this craziness.. If you’re happy and satisfied in your own marriage you probably wouldn’t feel the need to interfere THAT much in your kids and their partners lives..