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wud it be right to remain in love even if u married someone else and the other person also married someone else????
reminds me of this song i once heard....
khataa to jab ho keh hum haal-e-dil kissi se kahein
kissi ko chahetay rehna, koyee khataa to nahin
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Wow I didnt know so many people sacrificed the love of their life for their family. 
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It takes between 2-3 years to get over someone you were serious about and and in love with, but i dont think u can ever fall out of love with that person. Its just something which is kept sealed..
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Best reply so far, if someone is that important to you, then take a stand. If you can’t then save the sob stories because nobody is interested in them, especially not the unfortunate soul you will eventually marry.
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i agree, it all changes when a new person comes in to your life...
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always keep a backup. you never know when the original is gonna go flat. just pop in the spare and off you go.
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I really think you should fight for this . . .
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who are u
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judjing from all the replies..
are we a nation of failed lovers??? how sad.
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If that person hasn't committed to anyone else yet, you should fight and pray that everything goes in your favor. If you let your parents know of your feelings, they would most probably not force their decisions on you.
OR--
Marry someone else n make friends with them, indulge yourself in your new life. You know, us humans are so adaptable, we can mold ourselves whichever way we want, you can do it too.
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hey safeena 
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You know, my husbands taya still talks about the woman that he loved and who his father forced him to give up in favor of his wife. He even once introduced her to his wife. It wasn't her social background they objected to, it was the fact that he loved her without consulting them.
It really affects him, even to this day, when they are in their 60s, and it affected the kids as well, they both insisted on love marriages, to the point of actually getting married and informing later when the parents threatened to cut them off.
I can't imagine how the wife feels - she never says a word, but I know it would crush me if my husband did that. Its definitely about how you react to it.
If it's a love worth fighting for, don't just give up on it, and if it's not, once you get over it, then put it in the back of your mind and never refer to it again, at least to your spouse.
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lol.. sure sounds like it…
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Fight. You don't want to cave in and repent all your life. Somethings are worth fighting for. Parents don't always do things for your good, it's mostly about their ego. If you are convinced the person is the one, do not let go so soon.
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amana you are the voice of reason and wisdom on this board keep it up great lady! :k:
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god knows i may agree with that … but parents that have a condition, or age or both will always have an edge… and BY GOD!!! if 1 of them takes the matter to their grave, and u end up marrying your love, in x years you DONT WANNA turn around, and feel even a LIL bit of pressure on your shoulders that it was YOU who caused that parent to be like that..
so, do u like it? NO! would you do what THEY wish? HELL NO!
:sigh: i ask lord never to put me in a situation like that.. deciding ONE is not my strongest side:teary1:
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Faizy, good god. Unless the person their kid chose is really awful and will cause their child unhappiness, there is no reason to make it a matter of chronic worry and hurt themself. But if their hurting ego makes them suffer, then I really don't know how to handle that. I refuse to give into something which only concerns their pride. No way. It's their choice if they want to get stuck with hating my choice just for the heck of it.
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:-) chloe dear, sometimes in old age, you JUST cant reason with somebody.. NO logic explains to them and NO reason is good enough for them.. its not pride, its not that girl/boy is bad that you chose, its just something that cant be explained in words....
so u end up resting your case and develop a neutral behaviour about EVERYONE...