Apologies if there have been similar threads… I am getting married in September and I will be moving in with my in laws. I am not nervous about the actual wedding but more about settling into a new family. I think I would feel nervous about any family I marry into its not that I have an issue with my in laws. By nervous i mean fitting into their routine- such as breakfast timings, who goes in the bathroom first, washing clothes, cooking routines, small things like how often they eat out.
I am more than willing to change but I just really want experiences from both a husband and wife perspective, girls: what did you struggle with or find hard to do when you moved in? Guys? How did having an extra person in the house change dynamics?
I have a wedding to plan but I can’t stop thinking about life after marriage!!!
Re: Moving in with in laws -------how was your experience?
I just have 1 suggestion/advice for you....DON'T go into the new family with any preconcieved notions that oh she's my mil she has to be evil...blah blah.
Re: Moving in with in laws -------how was your experience?
For the first few days what I found hardest was finding things in the kitchen. Simple recipes took me so long because I had no clue where things were kept. I remember I was trying to make kheer and just could not find elaichi.. there were guests waiting outside and suddenly I felt so overwhelmed that I just burst into tears.
Moving in with in laws -------how was your experience?
I'm in exactly the same situation! I'm
So worried about the little things that it makes me feel sickkkk. Like you said washing clothes, do I wash only mine? Or his and my own?
I feel that once I'm there I'll slowly learn everything by observing and obviously by my new family telling me how they do things etc. So I sort of know that things will be OK because the family are lovely Alhumdulillah. But the thought is still freaking me out.
Or that I'll do something that's normal to me but will be completly abnormal to them
And them theyl think I'm weird :-/ arghhh.
Re: Moving in with in laws -------how was your experience?
For the first few days what I found hardest was finding things in the kitchen. Simple recipes took me so long because I had no clue where things were kept. I remember I was trying to make kheer and just could not find elaichi.. there were guests waiting outside and suddenly I felt so overwhelmed that I just burst into tears.
I literally laughed out loud at "overwhelmed that I just burst into tears". You're hilariously adorable :)
I feel your worry.! I feel the same.! Also im going to miss lazing around in my pjs.. And im even more nervous as il suddenly have a father figure in the house as my own father passed away 8 yrs ago and only man in my house is my 10 year old bro.! Lol and i too am worried about the whole kitchen stuff and routine etc
Re: Moving in with in laws -------how was your experience?
I'm in exactly the same situation! I'm
So worried about the little things that it makes me feel sickkkk. Like you said washing clothes, do I wash only mine? Or his and my own?
I feel that once I'm there I'll slowly learn everything by observing and obviously by my new family telling me how they do things etc. So I sort of know that things will be OK because the family are lovely Alhumdulillah. But the thought is still freaking me out.
Or that I'll do something that's normal to me but will be completly abnormal to them
And them theyl think I'm weird :-/ arghhh.
This is where ya suppose to sitdown with ya're significant other and draw some rules. And ask him to make it clear to everyone. And i am sure..if this is your choice and everyone is happy..Insha'allah ya be fine!. Just keep it real!.
Re: Moving in with in laws -------how was your experience?
i lived with my in laws when i first got married for 4 years... it was very hard...even though i married in the family (my mamoons son). you are an observer for at least the first 6 months to see how things are done where things are etc etc... i would say dont go in with preconceived notions of how things will be and how they will be... and rememeber the whole house will not change for you... you will have to make alot of changes to yourself to adjust... hopefully inshallah they will be helpful and guide you appropriately but try and be yourself its not as though you are there for a week or so... its a lifetime commitment... good luck
