Let’s say, you just got over a bad chapter in your life, You want to move on, carry on with your life and you try as hard as possible, but there is not a day that goes by when you don’t think about it. It still feels like end of the world. What do you do?
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sip on bacardi and rum ;)
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Pop corn khao, must ho jaao :halo:
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jus allow time to take it's toll. Maybe with time there will be days ull think bout it but it just wont get to u liek it does now. It may seem liek the ned of it all, but its also a beginning of sumthin new (as cliched as it may sound). Allow ueself to accept that it was then, this is now... Forgetting it and lockin it away wnt do u any good, memories tend to resurface.. just try learning to live with it as a cchapter of ur life. I dotn knwo what it is... so i cant say...
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practise stress manegemt techniques...try to indulge your mind in something else...its not easy but with continued practise ull get over it..and again time is the best healer...just let it run its course..
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This is the first time, I have ever seen a sensible answer from you. I’m impressed.
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pray for urself and u will explore all new world of happiness and satisfaction which are more the jannah stuff and rare for this life & world.
jaan hai to jahan hai..... and this is how life goes on.
perhaps looking at those in more troble and pain may help to a great deal.
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Ask Allah for guidance. Also try to keep yourself busy. Go the gym to get your feelings out. It might help.
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Dont expect to get over it quickly, it takes time, depending on the severity of the problem. Divert your attention, focus on other things, be patient, and thank Allah for all that you do have. Remember thats what life is all about - experiences good and bad. It took me a year to get over things, you never quite forget but you do move on.
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Like everyone else said, find a hobby that you enjoy, keep yourself busy and give yourself time to get over "it". As cheesy as it may sound, time is indeed the best healer. i hope everything is alright with you noor!
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Sorry love, cannot help, im still at that stage where i need to get over the “bad chapter”. 
You can’t force it though, trust me, it’l only bite you in the arse later. Sometimes people do need time to reflect and acknowledge what it is they need to move on from and how they will accomplish “inner peace”
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from the way of the sufi:
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A powerful king, ruler of many domains, was in a position of such magnificence that wise men were his mere employees. And yet one day he felt himself confused and called the sages to him.
He said:
"I do not know the cause, but something impels me to seek a certain ring, one that will enable me to stabilize my state."
"I must have such a ring. And this ring must be one which, when I am unhappy, will make me joyful. At the same time, if I am happy and look upon it, I must be made sad."
The wise men consulted one another, and threw themselves into deep contemplation, and finally they came to a decision as to the character of this ring which would suit their king.
The ring which they devised was one upon which was inscribed the legend:
This too, will pass.
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with time, things change,, i,m sure u wont be as down about this issue next year this time.... at the same time,,, some things can never be forgotten and remain a part of u, but as they say, time is the best healer... keep urself busy, or take up golf! :p
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Very difficult question mahnoor. It's horribly difficult to forget few things of life but every problem has a solution I believe. Try to concentrate somewhere else. Keep yourself very very busy and make yourself extremely tired so that you could take proper sleep without thinking anything. Also try to read Quran with translation, it works trust me.
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It is very diffcult. In my experience it has taken me a long time to moveon. Sometimes it can take upto 1-2 years depending on the person. Spending more time with family and friends and keeping yourself involved in other activities helps to some extent. Still at the end of the day when you are by yourself the thoughts might crossover your mind. Therefore, keeping yourself busy as much as you can..
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Keeping yourself busy as much as you can can help
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Or you can try reading Deviliciousss’ post](http://www.gupistan.com/gs/showpost.php?p=3081506&postcount=4). The new stress will make you forget all about the old one.
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hahahahahaha!!!
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*mahnoor * i can say from experience, you will think about it a lot in the beginning. but be glad its over & to get you through it, you need to focus on what lyes ahead... the better opportunities & better options you have. after time you look back & smile bec the bad times r over.