Why do people mourn a dead person rather than celebrate the dead persons achievments no matter how miniscule or how grand.
My father passed away a few years ago and every year on his death aniversary we all mourn his death read quran and pray that he land in heaven, this year is the first year I am away from my family and alone, but I dont want to mourn his death, I want to go out nad celebrate his life and thank Allah for giving me such a nice father, who cared for me, provided for me and took care of us when we couldn’t fend for ourselves. But culturally speaking it is something that is looked down upon and people expect you to be solemn and modest on this day. I dont understand why. Why does one need to be so saddened? I know death is not soemthing that people celebrate, but to mourn every year is not a healthy sign either. So why not go out and enjoy and pay tribute to a dead man than cry and be all solemn faced?
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I know of a distant uncle who married an American woman. When he died, we visited her for condolensces. She sat us down in the living area and set the stereo on to some of Noor Jahaan's songs. We were a bit uncomfortable with listening to 'O laal meri' while consoling her. So, I asked why is she playing this music. She with a tear in her eye said, 'Anwer loved this music. He would play it everytime someone from his country visited'.
Sometimes you remember loved ones by being joyful.
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You should see how they 'celebrate' in Africa... the celebrations go on for a week, a funeral takes place on the scale of a wedding, and is inclusive of excessive drinking and dancing.
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LMAO - This was original
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Ashtray bhaijan aaap theek henh? maro (pronounced mA-ro)= beat. So “tum maro to sahi” would equate to a homo inviting to be taken(=do him) in other words that takes rahter than gives.
I am sure you meant muro(pronounced murrr-ro) =get killed.
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On a serious note: I think its because we are selfish people.. we arent looking at the accomplishments of the dead person, rather focusing on the void left in our own lives.
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I agree with Muniya.....we are selfish.
I like the idea of celebrating a person's life rather than mourning their departure.
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Hey Munza baji I am the one that came up with the idea of celebrating my fathers death anniversary would that make me mean?
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I dont think it would make you mean.. but I wouldn't use the word celebration when discussing the idea with mom or anyone else in the previous generations.
How about starting off by reminding them of what a wonderful person you dad was..
take a few minutes to revisit his accomplishments and then say that you want everyone else to know about these moments in his life.
How about just structuring a lil speech at the end of his milad.. right before or after dua.
Changes but a lil at a time.
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Mourning is over a 3 day period. I don't know why people mourn someone's death every year. I am in agreement with you fobby, not go party, but celebrate their accomplishments and the type of person they were.
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It would be difficult for everyone to celebrate a person's life and their achievements as not everyone knows the person who has died personally. When I mourn my mothers death, I think of the whole days events and what it meant to me. To be honest, I don't particually like the fact that other people who didnt even know or care for my mother mourn for her, so I definately would't feel comfortable with them celebrating her life either. It would not feel right.
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easier said than done.