Re: Mothers
You would indeed be a good person than... I know girls that have their mothers wrapped arou d their fingertips and whatever they sa, goes... Even though they themselves are married and living far away. Would hate to be the dil of such a household. In this case though i would blame the mothers.
Smetimes nothing is wrong with the relationship between mil and dil... Just misunderstandings that should be cleared up between the 2 ppl involved... And not involve an outsider
Sometimes its just a misunderstanding between two people and sometimes you just need to get something off your chest. From your posts, it seems as if you think nands only wanna ruin the lives of their bhabhi and mother and make it all worse? That is IMO not always the case, yes some girls may have their mothers around the fingers and some mothers do also have their daughters around the fingers, but when two people are able to discuss openly as a mother and a daughter, I dont know why one would try to manipulate the other.
I dont think you always go to others to have advice or solutions either, sometimes you just need to talk it off with someone else and start on a fresh and in that case, I think a mother should talk to her daughter. As a DIL I would definitely prefer that my MIL talks it off with her daughter, who even if she is living away, is a part of the family and if she is close enough to the family, she will feel the tension, if it is a bigger one, rather than she talks it off with some friends of hers, who def. will only make things worse. We all know how the desi aunty system works, their only mission is to make an ant into an elephant.
Of course I agree, there is no need for the MIL to talk about everyday git pit with her daughter, because that happens in every relationship, but again if she is the type who needs to get it off her chest, then daughter is the way. In this case, I think a daughter should also know her mother is just venting out and not make things worse than they are ..
I know of mothers who have this need to talk it off, but they dont do it, because they dont want to tense their daughter etc etc. Kuddos to these mothers, but I have seen how miserable they are too.. and sometimes the limit is just exceeded and they vent all out with friends whom they should have never trusted. These friends then only makes it worse..