Mothers not breastfeeding their kids

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But if it is the best, thn why not give the best to your child. Why give the second best option.

I did for 8 months, and was back to work and pumping twice during work...he had issues latching on so i started to pump as soon as we got home from the hospital. At 7 months i had a cold, took some cold medicine which stopped my production...but i had enough milk frozen that we were able to give him that for 5-6 months longer.

I have seen and heard many new moms not breastfeeding because it so hard... but the truth is if you just keep thinking and telling yourself that you are giving the best to you child...things will be better. I think justifiable reason would be not having enough production/medical reason or maybe having children already.

I think for a second time around it will be much more difficult, with a toddler going around asking questions...but i will try my best to breastfeed the second child too.

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If the doc says its a medical reason, its a medical reason. If the doc says its not, its not. Simple.

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elaborate please....what could be a possible "medical reason" for not breastfeeding?

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A reason such as this.

Btw, what is your stance? Are you saying that there are no medical reasons? Or saying that all reasons are medical reasons?

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Because life is not that black and white. There are always numerous factors that affect our decisions as humans.

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You're right, ideally this is how it should be. And there should be a lot of support and guidance for mothers and fathers who are struggling in those early days of latches, feedings, engorgement, mastitis, etc etc etc.

But if for some reason a mother or father feels they are becoming miserable in this struggle to breastfeed, and perhaps that leaves them exhausted and frustrated with their children, maybe it is a fair decision to just back off, and do the best that they can to nourish their child, which may involve supplementing with or entirely giving formula to bring some calm and peace back into the household and fulfill their duties as loving parents in other manners.

Human beings, babies included, need more than just physical nourishment. There's more to parenting than that.

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It's about parent shaming. Nobody has the right to tell a mother that she didn't adequately care for her child or deprived her child because she didn't breastfeed...for whatever reason.

I exclusively breast fed my eldest for 15 months, the only reason I stopped was because I had to start IVF again for the second time. My twins, who were born premature, only had my breast milk in their feeding tubes in the NICU...I continued to ebf them until they were 6 months old, when I caught shingles because my immunity was so comprised and weakened. I was blessed with such an abundant milk supply I could have fed the whole neighborhood. Elsie the Cow was my nickname.

But that doesn't make me any better of a mother than you, gtg, sgc or anyone else in this thread. I say it's just luck.

Difficult babies, latching frustrations, inverted nipples, low supply....these are all very real issues, and if any of these issues keeps a mother from nursing, than so be it. She shouldn't be called out on poor parenting by anyone else.

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My doctor did not say I have any medical issue, I was perfectly healthy and fine. However, I was handed two brands of poison for the baby. I ate one brand with spoon (I think powder milk is delish) and use the other for my son. Oh but the awful mother and cheap mother that I am, thought xyz brand was a little pricier, so after 6 months I switched to a generic brand.

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i am saying i bf as long as i medically could. if i don't have milk production i really can't. If i have a upper respiratory infection and can't take care of myself of the baby, then of course i have to take medicine and stop bf.

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I am not trying to shame anyone. But stating my opinion about difficult situation, and working to resolve them. I mentioned if you have to stop for medical reason or because handling older children, i think thats understandable.

But if a mother decides to give up in the first week or two...i think thats just sad. Again you give the child whats best for them, not the second best option.

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Name brand vs. generic...they both have same ingredient...so no difference there.

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I didn't mean you specifically, I guess more the OP..I was just speaking generally.

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Why not then? That is the question. I seem to have offended quite a few here with questions and follow up questions. I am sorry if any one is offended.

I have said in the first post and repeatedly, i am not talking about the cases where there are legit reasons for it. Somehow, everyone seems to be stuck on that.

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Nobody has the right to judge anyone, for whatever reason. What may be a "medical reason" to one mom, may not be to you, or me. Grand, sweeping generalizing statements like you're making don't do anyone any favors.

As mothers, we all do want to do right by our kids and try to make the best decision. If someone decides breastfeeding is not the way to go, it's their choice, plain and simple. It's not right to put them through guilt trips.

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I repeat, medical reason not to a 'mom' but to a 'doc'. I said earlier too, medical reason AS SAID BY A DOC.

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Again, if don't get milk...you really can't do much.

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LOL, you’re still not getting it. A doc may not classify something as a “medical reason”…like inverted nipples…a doc may say “oh it’s no big deal, just use nipple shields”…what if a mom decides it’s too painful or cumbersome, and resorts to formula instead..by your logic, she’s failing at motherhood. Great.

:chai:

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I stopped at 6 months because I was tired. It was exhausting. I also had a fabulous husband who assured me I was not doing anything wrong from the day we started formula milk (when he was 5 days old) till this day.

A reason might be legit for my husband and I but not for you or anyone else. So let's not say mothers are depriving their children of something when we don't know their family dynamics and why they made the choice they did.

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So mothers can never be questioned? :konfused:

I for one, would not mind if someone corrects me or points out where i am doing something wrong. Be it a doctor, a family member or friend.