One who breastfeed you becomes your mother right? Which is most of the time obv is your mother but in old times it was different.
Lets take an example. There is one kid(boy) who is being breastfed by some other woman other than his mother & that woman is also breastfeeding her own daughter. Lets say they grow up & develop attraction towards each oother but wont this make them brother & sister since they were being breastfed by same woman? Religiously speaking one who nurse/breastfeed you becomes your mother. I am very confused regarding this topic. Brothers & sisters are only considered through father only or it can be considered through mothers milk also?
I have always heard that in this case the children become siblings of one another. But I didn?t know about the number of times ( 5) and the age limit stipulations.
But back then people used to give their new borns to "dayis" for breastfeeding. Now you never know how many kids that dayi has breastfed & you also dont know if the kid is being breastfed by multiple woman. If that was the case then you never know you might end up getting married to someone whom you are not suppose to marry. Did they keep a track?? I mean how can they keep a track.
If those people never confirmed how many feedings took place and they got married.............then that is on them.
If, however, the situation is such that two people are in this situation and they have not arrived at an absolute conclusion about number of feedings etc......then it's better to avoid pursuing this relationship. Right now it's only in the attraction stage and so it might be easier to back off and move on. The longer they remain in touch, the deeper the attachment will get and the harder it's going to be to move on. Even in the case where the person you are attracted to is a non-Muslim, there is still some wiggle room for marriage provided that the person accept Islam. But in this scenario.....(to my knowledge)...there seems to be no flexibility at all.....and conjecture is not enough to validate it. If you are still troubled by this and if it's something that either you are someone you know is facing.....then speak to a legit Aalim....someone who can breakdown all the possible rulings for you in this matter.
**You wont be very confused if you first read the Quran, hope below verse helps.
4.23 Prohibited to you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and sisters of your father, and the sisters of your mother, and the daughters of your brother, and the daughters of your sister, and your foster mothers who have breastfed you, and your sisters through breastfeeding, and the mothers of your wives. And your step daughters, who are in your care, of your wives with whom you have consumed marriage; but if you have not consumed marriage with them, then there should be no blame upon you. And are the wives of your sons who are from your loin, and that you take in marriage two sisters together, except what has already passed. Indeed, ever is Allah Forgiving, Merciful.
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If you're just discussing the topic, it's fine but if you are seeking an Islamic injunction you should be consulting an aalim. I don't think anyone here is qualified to provide you a proper answer. We all can pull the information from online sources that you also have easy access to, but anyone can put anything online.
Voyager1 has aptly pointed out the Quranic ruling on this issue. In addition, there are few intricacies involved on this topic which redvelvet mentioned and these can only be answered by an aalim, mufti.