Since i came to canada.. i have noticed that very few mothers give their own milk to their babies… or if they do give.. only for like 1 or 2 month.. while if u think islamicly they are suppose to give for 2 years.. both islamicly and health vice it is not a good thing.. then wat is the reason they avoid giving their own milk ?
My uncle’s wife just gave birth to a cute baby boy .. and now after 2 weeks of his birth his mom is not giving him her milk.. even though she knows that the baby is weak and all tat stuff..
some of them are saying that we dont have milk.. while according to doctor u will have proper amount of milk for baby after a couple of days from baby’s birth… So wat is the bahana for?
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personal preference? Why does it need to be a "bahana"?
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it's not a bahana.. some women are not able to express milk at all after the birth. i know couple of women who tried their best, but had to resort to formula milk in the end.
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^ no janu... i have seen many ladies at are even capable of giving milk but they dont :)
especially in these western countries :)
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if they give their own milk, its for their own good and for the baby. baby is less likely to get ill cuz he aquires some immunity from the mother through the milk and since the mother and baby will be exposed to same environment that would be very beneficial for the baby....it has many other benefits too...
and its good for the mother....a natural contraceptive....as well as helps to loose all the weight you've put on due to pregnancy etc.
benefits of breast feeling greatly outweigh the cons.
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^ i have never seen any thread related to this topic.. if someone did please show me i would love to know the anwer :)
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then why dont they give their milk 
after knowing so many benefits
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some women find it painful...
if u've never experienced it, why the need to talk about it and condemn others?
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Where does Islam say that you have to give milk for 2 years?
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Surah Al Baqarah (2) Ayah: 233
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233. The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, *(that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling*, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother's food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear. No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child, nor father on account of his child. And on the (father's) heir is incumbent the like of that (which was incumbent on the father). If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no sin on them. And if you decide on a foster suckling-mother for your children, there is no sin on you, provided you pay (the mother) what you agreed (to give her) on reasonable basis. And fear Allâh and know that Allâh is All-Seer of what you do.
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Correct Translation is:
*The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, *if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall be Treated unfairly on account of her child. Nor father on account of his child, an heir shall be chargeable in the same way. If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring, there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (the mother) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do. **
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hmm.. not to get into a religious debate, but how do u know which ones the correct translation?
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After reading the Arabic.. The part: Wa Alal Maulood is a reference to the previous one as far as I can see based on the Arabic Grammar.. Therefore, the correct translation will be if the father desires… otherwise as per your translation the part where you said the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food .. it shall also refer to BOTH not only father.
I dunno if I made sense for I am very poor in explaining such grammatical rules.. May be some one else can jump in and explain 
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Qureshi saab to the rescue. the sole light at the end of tunnel. and in this case the light at the endof the tunnel turned out to be a train for pyaricgudia.
im for breastfeeding not for religious reasons but cuz its been proven to be beneficial medically. and yeah i dont have any experience in it either does that mean i am not qualified to an opinion up in here?
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okies… thanks for the explanation
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Attia you really have to experience breastfeeding. You will find out that it is VERY painful, and time consuming. Also babies have to be breastfed every two hours for about 50 minutes each time. Basically new mothers breastfeed about 8 hours a day! On top of that there are hundreds of other responsibilities with babies. So you tell me how much fun can breastfeeding be?
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Yes, well you forget the
"If they BOTH decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them."
Therefore, actually, the decision to wean is between the married couple to do as they see fit. I suppose the first line "The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term" would indicate that the father has the upper hand in the decision. However, he is encouraged to take mutual consent and "consultation".
ie. listen to your doctor. Breast-feeding is not the same for each woman. Depends on the woman and her case. Some express milk, some don't - some have weak levels of antibodies in their milk, some don't, etc etc. It varies, and the doctor knows better than even the husband. Keep in mind the surah was revealed at a time where you didn't have doctors who know what they know now...
hence the "after due consultation".
See how smart God is? He knew there would be doctors one day who would know better than bufoon husbands.
Besides, I have yet to meet a guy who is comfortable with his wife's breasts being used for 2 years by a gnawing baby (side point).