Mothers are more apathetic towards their children if they were CSDs

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Re: Mothers are more apathetic towards their children if they were CSDs

@Paheli00

None of us have any right to to ask another woman to justify why she had a CS. For example…one of my close friends had a CS. When probed by nosy people…she simply told most people that she chose it b/c she was too scared of labor. I have no doubt people like you passed judgments on her for her choice. Her real reason? She was raped as a teenager. Thus, the idea of giving birth vaginally and having nurses/docs etc. touching her so intimately and not being in control of her body was traumatic to her. She was seeing a therapist throughout her entire pregnancy to try to get over this and finally, around her due date…after discussing her history/current mental state with her therapist AND OB…everyone agreed that a CS was best in her situation even though there was no physical medical justification for it. My point being that even in cases where we’re being told the CS was “elective”…we may not know the true reason behind it. So by reminding CS moms that they didn’t have a “normal delivery”…we may be doing more harm than good by making them feel that they’re somehow inferior to VD moms.

People like me? Passing judgments? Paheli00 the phrase “people like you” is judgmental itself … The moment you accuse someone of being judgmental you have been the same towards them. In certain circumstances it is inescapable, but let me set it straight for you … I don’t pass judgments on people - I follow a way of life and philosophy that prevents me from second guessing the motives of people … So let’s leave this mudslinging to the side please.

About feeling more bad or less bad - on the contrary - if a mother does a good job at being a mother in a disadvantaged position then she is better than the mother who does a good job because it comes naturally to her. So I’m not saying CS mothers are inferior - I’m saying they may find it harder to respond - it may come less naturally to them - but if they respond accordingly then they are the ones doing the jihad … So it is not what you think …

I believe it is more natural for the man to earn and be the breadwinner so when he does this he merely establishes his duty, but when the woman does this then she has risen beyond what is natural and her acts are of double reward. Likewise, if the results are something to be relied on … CSD mothers may find it harder to respond, but when doing so I believe will be given double reward because it is harder for them. My line of argument here - is perhaps favouring the choice of VD in order to make the mothering process easier and more natural. So how can this amount to making the CS mothers feel bad?

@Paheli00

4. Yes, this specific study was about elective CS. So what? What were the authors criteria for calling a CS “elective”? If I’m not mistaken…they’re not OBs. So is the “elective” designation given by the OBs of those 6 women OR did the authors of the study come up with a certain set of guidelines to decide which CS was elective?

In addition, they did their test 2-4 weeks after delivery. As I said already…whether its elective or not…it’s ridiculous to compare a woman who had major abdominal surgery to a VD mom who may not have had any complications. Without knowing the details of how easy or difficult those VD births were…and whether or not the CS moms had any issues recovering from the CS (ie. infection incision) and were taking strong pain meds…none of us know if the authors of the study were comparing apples to apples.

I still don’t understand why elective CS is a bone of contention - I was never talking about emergency CS - those cases are unavoidable and there may be only informational needs for doing the tests … but for those who CHOOSE to the CS - it is for them this study is more pertinent.