Ashy my elder sister who is married realize this quality of my mom after her marriage ;). Now difference is only that you can disagree with your mom openly and tell her that you don’t like her interference in work. Even sometimes we have arguments with her as we know at the end of the day she will be fine and don’t be angry with us. But if you tell this to your MIL … it becomes a source of fight :p.
Actually when it comes to cooking.. she is ready to accept our ways. But when it comes to home decoration or other kitchen tasks.. she disagrees with us mostly. we and our mom have different taste and different ways to do things. Yes may be she doesn’t like a bigger changes. But she should understand that she have all the authority in her house for like 30 or 25 years… its now time to give chance to your daughters or DIL.