According to several authentic hadith including the one narrated in Ahmed and Ibn-e-Majah, “Paradise lies at the feet of the mother”. It does not mean literally, for example that if a mother walks on the road and steps on filth and dirt, it becomes paradise. It means if you respect your mother, obey her, love her and take good care of her, you will Insha Allah enter paradise.
According to another hadith narrated in Bukhari and Muslim by Abu Huraira, the Prophet was once asked who amongst all the people was the most worthy of his respect and compassion . The Prophet (Pbuh) replied “your mother”; the man wanted to know who should be next, the Prophet (Pbuh) said “your mother”. The man enquired, who next?, the Prophet (Pbuh) replied for the third time “your mother”, again the man asked who next? The Prophet (Pbuh) replied “your father”. This means that 75% of love and respect goes to the mother and 25% to the father; that the better 3/4th goes to the mother and the remaining 1/4th to the father; or to put it in another way the gold medal goes to the mother and the father gets a consolation prize.
Abdullah Ibn Mas'oud (ra) said ''I asked the prophet (saw) : What is the best deed? He (saw) replied, 'To offer the prayers within the early stated fixed times.' I asked, What is next in goodness?' He (saw) replied, To be good and dutiful to ones parents.' I further asked, 'What is next in goodness? He (saw) replied, To participate in Jihad, in Allah's cause.''
Therefore we should be good and dutiful to our mother and father as it is the second best deed.
Abu Hurairah (ra) reported : ''A man came to Allah's messenger and said, 'O Allah's messenger! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by him?' The prophet (saw) said 'Your mother.' The man said. Who is next ?.' The Prophet (saw) said, Your mother.' The man further said, 'Who is next?' The Prophet (saw) said , 'Your mother.' The man asked, for the forth time , 'Who is next?' The Prophet said, Your Father''
Many Ayat of the Qur'an describe pleasing ones parents as coming second only to pleasing Allah (swt), and confirm that treating parents well is the best of ones good deeds, after having faith in Allah (swt), ** Worship Allah and join none with him in worship, and show kindness to parents.** (4:36)
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This means that 75% of love and respect goes to the mother and 25% to the father; that the better 3/4th goes to the mother and the remaining 1/4th to the father; or to put it in another way the gold medal goes to the mother and the father gets a consolation prize.
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Baray hi afsoos ki baat hai waisay. :(
just felt like adding that the one true relationship amongst all the other relationships is from a mother to her child, and the reason i feel like this is that the child can never give back what a mother gives to him or her.
