Mother Tongue / Father Tongue

[Deeba1234]

Re: Mother Tongue / Father Tongue

@FairyTale

Usually, as per tradition and norm, the kids are supposed to learn their father tongue/language. e.g. if father is punjabi and mom is for example pathan, the kids are expected to learn punjabi and they will be known as Punjabi. Not only kids will learn punjabi but wife is expected to master it too in case she is not already. She is expected to communicate with him in his language right?

I’ve never heard of this.. My parents speak different languages and I’m better at my mum’s language(s) cos at a very young age we obviously tended to spend more time with her and her family (even tho I’m closer to my dad now).. My brother has married into a desi family who speak another different language and my parents have openly said they expect their future grandkids to end up better at her language rather than ours.. Tbh I think it’s a bit ridiculous to give one parent’s language more importance than the other, best to just let the kids speak whichever they feel more comfortable with and pick up naturally..