So I’ve seen a lot of MIL threads out there… All pretty negative and in some cases even scary. Now for some background info: I had a baat pakki with a guy a few years ago but had to break it off because the MIL was CRAZYY… She used to verbally abuse my parents over the phone, and when I went to break it off she told me that I shouldn’t dare because I was a Larki and I’d get a bad name after a broken baat pakki?!! That sealed the deal for me and I was outta there!
After that whole scenario I was a bit scared of marriage and MILs! So since then I fell in love with this amazing guy and we wanted to marry each other.. I was totally freaked out about meeting the family cos it was a love marriage :halo: (the other baat pakki was arranged and she still hated me/my family!). But mA the family turned out to be AMAZING.. I got married last month, and I can honestly say I love my MIL.. She’s very sweet, treats me like a daughter, brings food around for us to freeze, and is generally a kind and understanding person. So all is not lost people - good MILs are out there, they just need to be found! One thing I’d say us living in your own house makes a tonne of difference, having your own space allows you to appreciate the time you do spend with you and your spouses families, but you have your own privacy too.
So who else out there has some positive MIL stories?! I’d love to hear! Team MIL
Whenever we get an overload of anti MIL threads, there is always a positive one open and people share their good experiences as well, so hopefully the same will happen now =)
... She used to verbally abuse my parents over the phone, and when I went to break it off *she told me that I shouldn't dare because I was a Larki and I'd get a bad name after a broken baat pakki?!! That sealed the deal for me and I was outta there! *
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LMAO.....Some of these MILs would make the awesomest trolls. <3
Lucky you! Mashallah be thankful for your blessings. Your MIL sounds like a rare gem.
I wish I could say the same! I always feel really sad when I hear good in laws stories so I don’t think I’ll be opening this thread much. but it’s good to know good people still exist out there. Wish they had crossed my path.
ITs been a month, give it time. no but seriously, there’s a difference between the bat**** crazy MILs and the ones who are generally nice but have their flaws (just like every other humin bean)
True it’s only been a month, but she’s a peacemaker and kept things nice and smooth throughout wedding time too :). Of course everyone has flaws, one of hers is at she is almost too nice to people and lets them walk all over her sometimes, so I try and give her more confidence in her decisions by backing her up ;). Hoping everyone gets a MIL that treats them well and with RESPECT iA, after all, that’s all we want really!
Alhamdolillah I feel blessed to be part of a caring new family.. I know I would’ve struggled if I had difficult inlaws, I would’ve just caved in and been trodden over I think! But S and S, everyone has their challenges and tests in their lives, maybe this is yours? It takes a lot of patience to be around difficult people.
no but seriously, there’s a difference between the bat**** crazy MILs and the ones who are generally nice but have their flaws (just like every other humin bean)
. Wish you all the best too iA