I dont like my mother in law.I am newly wed,
reasons,
first she asked me to change my surname, which I dont like to.Aswell I wonder why shes so much bothered about it?
second she asked me to call my husband what she suggests, she doesnt want me to call my husband name.Also I wonder what the hell she got to do with?
third, I recently come to know my husband has no bank balance at all.All his money is with his mother.When he asked his mother what he has, she replied very little amount.
All these makes me to hate her.
Thank God am not staying with her.I dont even feel like talking with her.I did shout at my husband for being irresponsible and giving all to his mum.He literally has nothing and I cant believe.My husband is earning quite handsome and I just wonder what happened to all his earnings.He promised me he wil give everything to me from now on.But I just feel this is bit too much.I feel that shes simply using him.My husband has a bro.Sorry to say gud for nothing, hes a spendthrift with no job nothing.Even for that my mother in law ask my husband to give him money for his needs.what the hell is happening.I did get upset at my husband.I did tell him hes a stupid.He even didnt know what he was earning till I calculated all for him and did tell him no matter hw all your mother spend you should have atleats this much which is in her hands.How to love these kinds of people?Hey please am not God.I was also working.I also used to give my earnings to my father.But he deposited it all under my name.We both are from financially good families.What do you think?
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You should be grateful that you are living separately, there are thousands of girls who tolerate more than that and even have no chance/ opportunity living separately. You are newly wed, everything can not be of your choice. Just wait and watch and dont argue too much with your husband, even about the amount he has given to his mother, it will make him think, 'main kahan phans gaya'.
you mentioned he earns handsome salary and also that he promised you that he will give you the amount from now onwards, so whats the prob now, you should be thankful ke aanay wala paisa to barbaad nahin hoga na!! secondly, ye ke aik beta apni maa ko kuch dayyyyyyyyyyy hi naa.......thats wrong.. tumharay uske bete ki life main aanay say jab wo ye difference feel karengi ke kahan maira baita aik aik paai haath p laa ker rakhta tha aur kahan ab aik rupya nahin deta to ye achhi baat nahin hay, tum bohat nahin balkay bohat zaada buri banogi!! and you never know log jealousy main kis had tak jatay hain. You are newly wed and i am sure u dont know ke tumhari saas ki type kiya hay?? either she stays quiet or start telling people ke mairay naseeb phoot gaye bahu kesi mili YAAAAA jaadu tona shuru !! Wese bhi islamically maa baap k huqooq hotay hain. So kisi bhi cheez main balance rakho, had se aagay na guzro. Kaam wo karo ke saanp bhi maray aur laathi bhi naa tootay. Garam garam na khaao. Tel dekho tel ki dhaar dekho! hubby ne jo kaha hay usay observe kero ke wo poora kerta hay ya nahin.......... Abhi se Tension?? Jahan tak naam ki bat hay, you dont live with her, agar saamna hojaye to unke samnay apnay hubby ko SUNIYE kehne main kiya jata hay........... sath reh rahi hoti to main samajh sakti thee magar do teen baar suniye keh do koi haraj nahin hay. Han agar hubby ko bhi bura lagta hay to you should obey him. You are very lucky that living separately!! to bilawaja aur annoyed na ho ke hubby soche ab kiya chahye!!
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aik baat aur, shukar karo hubby ne ye nahin kaha ke Nahin, pese to main apni maa ko hi dunga…wo ye bhi keh sakta tha…so dear, na-shukri na bano! bardaasht karo. shuru ke chnd saal bardasht karlo, agay ki zindagi pur-sukun guzre gi 
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please search threads authored by nadz123.
read them all for homework and then we’ll come back and discuss.
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Muzna, wo apna gham bhool jayegi im sure 
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that’s what I am hoping…
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:k:
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thats why you did long post in her thread to use those responses later in life 1.
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Aaj kal ki MIL’s 
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Good suggestion by queen_24
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So why shud he give all his money to you?
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Good suggestion by queen_24
:@:
So why shud he give all his money to you?
...so he should live off his wife's income?
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First two are non issues. Just call him what she wants in front of her and whatever you like away from her. Surname change is not required in islam, explain it to her and ignore the request.
Third one; is a big issue. However your husband has agreed to resolve it so as long as he does, it shouldn't be a problem.
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ur slightly childish arent u
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Wow poor husband being stuck in the middle! Bechara let him be a man and deal with his own money!!!
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I dont like my mother in law.?
Your MIL started her thread exactly the same way
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Nothing like learning from the best.
Seriously though, letting your mother control your finances, that’s strange.
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ha.ha.
anyway, your husband sounds like hes around 6 yrs old
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