How is it in love that people decide to leave everything? Sometimes you don’t always get what you want. And often time it is the people who you trust the most end up abandoning you. Some people are lucky enough to find their true love, but they dont get to spend their entire lives with them. In most cases and in our culture people are forced to marry with someone they don’t know anything about. Yet when they remember about their past lives and their past loves they make a deal with themselves every day not to remember but always keep moving. Is it hard for them, to leave their past love life and start another one with a total stranger? Can they live happily? Or as they song goes, Muj sey pehli si muhabbat merey mehboob na mang.
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Is it hard for them, to leave their past love life and start another one with a total stranger?
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In the beginning must be tough
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Can they live happily?
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maybe
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Or as they song goes, Muj sey pehli si muhabbat merey mehboob na mang.
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it wont be ever the same though
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Depends upon the intensity of relationship, people do get married (having someone else in the heart) and pass their lives with no or less intense feelings towards the partner because the feeling quota has already been fulfilled with the person he/she has fallen in love with.
Some people can move on with their lives easily or they make an intentional effort to move on to give the due rights of partner but some like to live in the past and dont want to get all those thoughts/memories off their mind on purpose.
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***I think its difficult to actually mentally move on even when in reality things change and progress and it really depends on that person and how they dealt with those feelings........
If they were not able to be with the person they loved then unless they find someone else to love in the same capacity and with the same intensity , they will always really be emotionally cold towards a spouse or partner.........and I think its better not to get into a new relationship if that's the case because sooner or later the new partner will feel and realize that they have been emotionally isolated and that can lead to problems.
The other alternative is to settle for a person that they at least can share a comfort level with rather than marry a complete stranger as is the case in arranged marriages so that at least there is some semblance of an emotional connection at some level !
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Time is best healer. After certain time they ll forget about past love.
Best would be if the new partner is loving and you fall in love with him/her which is very much possible.
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i think ime does help to heal but...u will always have that person in ur mind...i think for me if i didnt marry my fiance id find it difficult to marry someone else..especially once u have shared everything with that one person.
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forget about the past and move on, IMO - one should only marry someone who can make him forget about the past with his/her love.. and sorry i don't have any idea how people get married to strangers, i find it so pathetic! :o
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^ how about your parents sabi. Was that a love marriage? Did they know each other before their marriage?
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its hard bt after sometim thy start loving each othr…bt GOD knws well…
girlz always adjust…if girlz lov befor than aftr maraige she hav to adjust…if boy is not good than same girl hav to adjust…
y i am a girl:mad:
whn i heard abt all dis k kisi nay apni biwi ko mara aur larka phlay kisi ko pasnd karta tha…i just hate dat…
kyun larkiyaan hi jhukti hain:bummer:
^ how about your parents sabi. Was that a love marriage? Did they know each other before their marriage?
Yes, my parents had love marriage fairytale.. :) they were neighbours :D and Alhamdulillah we've never seen our parents shouting, scolding, arguing with eachother Alhamdulillah :) my parents are the BESTEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Its hard...thats no lie.
Is it impossible to love someone with the same intensity you loved another? I dont think so.
It might take some time to build to that level again though. Why? We're human and sometimes we are hesitant to go near something we were burned by before. So you might take your time building a relationship again but once you know you can trust this person to be there forever...you will love them even more.
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MASHALLAH…may ALLAH sHOWER HIS blessings always on them!!
Its hard...thats no lie.
Is it impossible to love someone with the same intensity you loved another? I dont think so.
It might take some time to build to that level again though. Why? We're human and sometimes we are hesitant to go near something we were burned by before. So you might take your time building a relationship again but once you know you can trust this person to be there forever...you will love them even more.
Absolutely correct! I agree with PSquared 100%
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i wonder the same thing