barat: my family forgot to send the driver to get me from the house where i and khala were waiting anxiously… its only when all the guests had arrived and it had been forever before ppl actually realized, abbay we are at a wedding and the bride isnt here.. only then did my dad send for the driver.. that was not intresting.. ppl enjoying my wedding so much without me 
ruksathi time: we had a couple of my husbands white danish friends visiting pakiland for the first time and it was their first desi wedding too.. so during ruksathi time, a couple of heejras came and started to dance.. everyone got too bz saying bye bye to me and sending me off that the goray were left unattended… the poor guys were seen dancing , or tryin to imitate the desi tumkhay of the heejras thinking it was a part of the wedding entertainment. my brother told them that no its not like that but the goray guys still thought it was so much fun and continued to dance with the heejray.. the amount of effort the goray put in the desi tumkhay, i think the heejray should have paid them!
