Re: Moral Mind Science
hi Witch Dr.
thanks for the comment. i appreciate what you said about self improvement and i realise that wrong lines are drawn by others.
i really like that universal truth that everyone ought to note, that when we speak of one, we should keep everyone in mind - and not be exclusive from the get go.
now, for the confusion that you stated, nostalgia is many things.
an instance: a wife who was nagging and torture to her husband, or a man who has beaten his wife, and they were never realizant of this while they nagged and torture and beated, respectively.
and later on, decades later, alone or infront of children, they recall their spouses, dead or alive, as good and nice patient, people. that nostalgia is part perhaps self condemnation, but it is still a way to seflishly absolve oneself of one's blindness about what one did when the other spouses were mistreated by them.
that is why it is so important that people dont make a personal mess intheir lives for anything related to intimate relations. because it does become that snake may or may not bite but that is very much always there infront of the person or all around, who was bad.
nostalgia in immigrant families, is a way to escape from the reality of having to wortk, to earn, to live as decent citizens in any country - be it native or foreign.
some people are focused on making good memories with others, as social and interactive beings, while others are incapable of this. and so the blame game is played in a futile manner.
self deception, unhappiness, constant state of self pity is not the way to be.
but people do so, in a failure effort to find whatever little bit can give them a cover.
it is like, something is within your reach, but it is not. that soemthing is to be reached by you, but you dont want to make the efforet to reach it and then somehow you blame that thing, for being out of reach.
complex human minds which apparently are that much more twixed in their own, because of nostalgia creeping in with the affect of past better than present or vice versa or none better at all?
it is not the place and time is always wrong, it is mostly people who are unable to do their part to make that place and time right for their own selves.
and thus, in my opinion, a sorry nostalgia for them, gets made for them to experience when they cant do anything or even if they can, they have not done anything yet .
another example: a person who is betrayed, and after the betrayer is out of sight and hearing, that person speaks to other people...normally and is not clearly looking for any replacement, like most people do when they are hurt or someone badly mistrusts and hurts them.
another person comes along and presumes that if he was or she was spoken to by the hurt person, and if the betrayer saw that and he/she presumes that the person who was betrayed by him/her, is moving on for forgetting him/her.
whose false nostalgia is it?
the point is, nostalgia is used or misused by diff people in diff ways.
some people, unfortunately, fail themselves in getting to know somebody good enough, confidently enough by their own two eyes, and thus lose.
any thoughts?
best,
Dushwari