I was having quiet an easy pregnancy so far but recently my mood swings have begun. I find it VERY difficult to control what I think and feel and it all just burts out…
I dont want to be social for the next 4 months as I have already offended someone though she was misbehaving with me…
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you are being hormonal ............start writing blogs and take out your anger over there . aisa hota hai tension nahi leni hai just relax and think only positive.
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Listen, mood swings are natural and your God given right, you're pregnant, chances are that you're the most important person wherever you go. If people can't understand that your hormones, your body, your life are changing rapidly, then they are dumb, don't worry about them. Right now, the only thing you should be worrying about is your baby and making everything safe and welcoming for him/her.
Congratulations, babies are awesome, other than the poop.
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I know...I dont think good friends would mind me being like this..but perhaps this is time to test out all my friendships:D
I am just so exhausted..both physically and emotionally...cant bother to work but still working full time...and have a looser of a boss....ufff
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I am really having the blues these days. Besides fulltime work I have spent the past many years volunteering in different projects in my local community, partly to get to know more people after I moved to this city and partly because I find it important to contribute with what I can.
I have also made a huge effort to get to know people and make new friends but almost every friendship has turned out to be dissapointing, mainly because I was there 200% for them and never even got 50% back.....Therefore I have slowly withdrawn myself from people and ended up doing lots and lots of volunteer work and meet people through that but didnt really develop any friendships there.
Now, 5 months pregnant, I have taken a break from volunteer work and am not working full time either. This means that I am not seeing anybody at all which is making me feeel like the most lonely person on planet.
My parents and siblings live in another country and we are only in touch on phone once in a while. Same with my parents in laws. My SIL lives close to us but never bothered to ask how I am doing. My very good friend calls me everyday to ask how I am but she herself is going through infertility treatment so I dont speak openly about my pregnancy to her as she might feel sad afterwards.........
Another friend I thought was a close friend recently misbehaved totally and acts like I am her mother who will keep forgiving her so I have decided to cut off my ties with her. I dont need such people in my life.
But I am wondering what wrong I have done since there is absolutely noone around me other than my husband and one close friend....isnt this the time where all the other friends whom I have done so much for, should at least send me a text message and ask how I am doing....
seems like people are so busy with their own stuff that they forget to ask others how they are.....
I really feel lonely...:( missing my mum, nieces, nephews and family...:(
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^ awww hug well, you have us and we'll ask how you are! and congratulations! looks like we're on the same track, give or take a couple of weeks. when are you due?
mood swings are normal- i cry at the drop of a hat sometimes these days. its lame but you just learn to go with the flow. you're growing a human being! do what you feel like. its a big job, people should cut you some slack.
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Aww it's OK. Making 'good' friends isn't really easy and most people have many superficial friends but very few who truly care!
Why don't you start a blog? I'd love to read about your pregnancy and stuff. Add me in your friends list if you want.
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Thanks guys:)
I cant bother to start a blog. its so time consuming and the content will just be my outbursts so I will just use this post to get things out from my system....
I have started reciting Quran to get into a routine of spiritual acts like reciting durood sharif, praying regulary, and stop thinking about other people and rather spend time on reflecting about the Creator and His little creation inside me:)
I often miss having a conversation with other people which is why I have started to feel lonely as there is just noone around.....I realized that the best conversation must be the one between me and my Creator by reading Quran and conversation between me and my baby now when its hearing is developed.
People are very superficial and will only contact me when they need help or some kind of information. I am fine without that type of people but must admit that I do feel the need ke koi pyaar se baat kar ke aap ka khyaal rakhe. My husband does that all the time but I guess I am missing this from females like mother, sisters, SIL, MIL, friends....and either they are not here physically or they are around but dont have time/energy to even ask how I am feeling....
I am feeling much better after writing all this as I am realizing that kind of looser people I have wasted my time on untill now....From now on I will be focusing on my health and my baby and the so-called friends are not getting any help from me whatsoever when they eventually will call as I know that they will one day when they need me!!
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well thats a very good and positive way .i my self am pregnent and since ive shiffted to uk its been a year now i dont have any friend even any relative here so i am all by my self .
Some time i feel alone but the fear of having nice and trusty friends i dont make any as what i hear is every one is mutlabi its very difficult to find any .
So to avoid the kind of sitiuations ur dealed with i dont make any ..:(.Its better to be alone then having such fuss of other people.
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I have had some good days. not too many mood swings. been on a sick leave from work for the past 2 weeks and just been resting at home.
I have accepted the fact that life here is hectic and people dont have time for each other and also realized that I am not some weak woman who need other people to make me happy. With that as my starting point I have come to peace with fact that I dont need to have friends around me that are false or 'matlabi'. I rather be alone and spend time on myself and my husband than other people.
In the past weeks I have just been resting, sleeping a lot, been on medication and living with its side effects. cooking yummy food. reading books on pregnany and reciting Quran and focusing on my spritual state.
It has just been so wonderful. I am loving it at home!!! I have one more week of my sick leave and then I have to be back at work...just dont feel like going back to work...
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was feeling good yesterday but feeling bored and alone at home today. need to get out but its just too cold!!!
feeling weak after a month of sickness and feel a need to be pampered. hubby does his best but is busy with his studies and work...and noone else around me to pamper me...this is certainly a time one needs to be pampered and taken care of..
and I am not really good at coomunicating my expectations to hubby..dont want to disturb him in his work and want to see what he does on his own initiative....