As the wedding gets close, every bride goes through an emotional melodrama. I end up creating a havoc on small things, am getting extremely short tempered and sometimes reacting more on miniature natured things.
Did any of you have them as well, any incidents? How did you overcome them or did they continue after the wedding too?
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another's pandoras box of bRidezillas.... ;)
To ans your q: and it's just wedding related stress, not just the planning etc but the emotional stress , it is a new phase of your life after all.I mean when kids see their siblings go to school they r excited yet when their day comes to go most find it so hard. most brides have so many worries /anxiety's all rolled into one that when little things annoy them it's easier to vent their feelings through them. I'm sure it will be fine after the wedding IA .
wish you the best :)
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I am going through similar feelings..... :(
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it does happen.u cant really help it..i used to have a fight with my mom daily on petty issues..and the thing which ive learned , u cant control everything...let it go with the flow....i still think things would hve been done differently on many places but dont stress yourself over each n every detail....but yes its been 20 days and thank God im not frustrated as i was before wedding....things are normal now :)
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I am arguing with mama as well. We had the most peaceful relation & now i am so cranky!
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dont worry it will soon be over, try to relax yourself and dont worry abt each and everything. i was kind of a person who used to go into each and every single detail but my family wasnt lol...for example the way we come here and discuss abt each and every detail.colour, photography, movie etc etc...my family wasnt into all that...they were more into selecting goood place, foood etc and Alhamdulliah all went really well, everybody liked it....but u cannt really enjoy your own function i was so angry on my mehndi becuase of time constraint, we had nikkah on mehndi as well and time was too short that not a proper mehndi function could be seen..just relax yourself and try to have a calm relationship with your mom, u"ll miss her :( as i do infact everyone does...and again all the best dear
I am arguing with mama as well. We had the most peaceful relation & now i am so cranky!
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I am the opposite, i don't really care much about the intricate things. If the big things are done, i am fine. Its basically behavioural changes that are occurring.
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Dont worry girls its normal, I had major panic attacks before the wedding, just try and relax I know its easier said than done but if you ask me I dont remember anything from my wedding days and we had week long wedding, I need to watch the videos to actually see what happened when I have time lol
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lol it happens , i agree
Dont worry girls its normal, I had major panic attacks before the wedding, just try and relax I know its easier said than done but if you ask me I dont remember anything from my wedding days and we had week long wedding, I need to watch the videos to actually see what happened when I have time lol
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aww thats true it happens but be patient n try to enjoy this precious time with ur parents and siblings....u will never ever get this time again in ur life....believe me...take pictures with ur family members,when u r going for shopping with them etc,i even took pics when we all were taking lunch n dinners together lol i made videos also.... ahhhhhh i miss that time....
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I am going thrugh that phase. as my barat on sunday. but try to keep myself happy and smilng:-)
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^ so tomorrow is your mehndi amaya? :) best of luck. boy you must be super nervous plus excited right now :)
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i m getting married soon i feel that i have become very sensitive n emotional i duuno y ...some times i cry over small issues.... i cant sleep at night properly nor i m eating properly sometimes i feel happy other times i feel sad without any reasons is that normal ?
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weddings are not perfect and brides want them to be :) i was in this phase on my engagement but I've learned my lesson and not going to repeat during my wedding preparations.. there are tens of details going wrong even now but i always tell myself you can find a middle way out and yes it works every time :@:
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I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling stressed out, planning a wedding is not easy. It requires a great deal of effort and coordination and can cause a great deal of upsets.
It is important to recognise **what **is making you feel upset/agitated/anxious. If it is the stress of the wedding, organising everything and making sure everything is perfect then think about asking some friends or family members to help with certain tasks. If you like to have complete control then give explicit instructions but do delegate tasks.
If however you find you are getting anxious and agitated without an apparent reason then it might be worth noting when you feel that way. What happened before, was it something someone said? Was it something someone did? Was it because you thought of something that made you feel uncomfortable in any way?
Yes weddings can cause anxiety, but it is important to recognise where exactly this anxiety is coming from. Are you nervous about your life post-marriage? Is there something playing on your mind that you haven't spoken to anyone about that could be causing the agitation? Take a few minutes, sit down with a friend/sister/mum and talk through with them about your anxieties.
Your wedding day is one you want to be able to remember, don't let it get lost in the stress. Find a quiet moment every now and then just to sit down and relax. If you're losing your temper with people, take a deep breath and count to 10, then speak to them. It will at least take the edge off so you can state what you need/want without it making you feel awful about it later.
I hope you are able to manage things better and can enjoy yourself in the lead up to your wedding.
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haha I'm cranky too. Mama and I fight twenty times a day and then relax over a cuppa tea at night with Nani. Poor Nano is being mediator and scolding both of us