i too am facing the same situation. what if earlier u used to do job and still ur parents helped u in finances. after marriage ur husband starts saying that ur money is my money and i have the right at it. i had my own car, gifted by my parents at my wedding. my husband had his family burdens and expenses , like the rent and other bills as well although his whole family used to live there. he said me bfore marriage that my job is nothing to him and that is all my wish. later he claimed that he was giving me everything so now it was all his. i had a way of spending, like car's expenditure+a way of living which was a must to maintain ur self in a profession. he says that no pocket money is needed as i get what i want i.e., a jeans, or a dress after a lot of discussion. now what to do? he has got a hansome job at a foreign land and has a bright furture. what to do as i have 2 kids and too small. i can't do job. everything is upto him, at times it really hurts wen i need sumthing too urgently and have to drop it, thinking that it will give vent to a clash. the same is with the kids'shopping. had to fight the case in order to get it done. i don't know whether this will save a lot of money?
Try to find ways to develop some confidence in him as far as your spending is concerned. He might not be trusting at your judgment on spending money.
Ideally, a different checking account for you will be helpful. You should have a checking/debit/credit card of your own. If he wants to control finances then he should transfer some money on regular basis in your account. My advice is just an advice. Don't know what will really work for you.