.MWAP, the question isn't that golddiggers r bad, because the answer is pretty obvious. The question is what makes someone a golddigger? Why does any woman who thinks about the finances of a man and uses that as a factor for whether he'd be a suitable life partner considered a gold digger?
You know what, if i was told about a rishta (didn't meet him or know about him) who didnt haev a good job or make any money , i'd say no right then and there.. because I dont want to have to struggle to make ends meet..BUT if i got to know a guy and then much later found out how much he made..it'd be a different story, then the money wouldnt matter as much..
Well, that is the topic. Golddigers and women who choose their partners on basis of their wallets.
The rest of your post is what I said earlier, you have to get to know a person. It is same with money. There are many women who complain that guys are after their money/ greencard and what their Daddy made not them...I hate those guys too.
Struggling is a part of life, we take finances as the major reason but married life is long and takes lots of understanding. Finanacially struggling is different for different people.
From my personal experience, when i met my husband the first time at the family get together i didnt know he was a doctor but i was impressed at his character, his intelligence, his up-bringing than anything else. He is such a decent bloke. He is practing muslim and It was his sincerety that attracted me. and mind you, it was much later (couple months later) that i found out he is anaesthesiologist. But i've met people who are so quick to say, 'oh what a catch he is,etc' or 'she is a fast (chalak) girl since she found her partner on her own' or ' that guy is there for her looks and she is in it for money '. but now, im become wise, i dont give rats ass about what anyone thinks.
mwp, i expected more from you since you are the moderator.. if you don't agree with someone's views there are other ways to reply them back with respect then by just saying 'its because you are narrow minded".
It is somewhat annoying when people will say “wow he’s a catch!” just by looking at his job and his looks…its funny though almost everyone i know has asked me what he does, thats their first question , “what does he do”? And thas from the guys
Man's traditional role is to provide, i think this is true in every society and religion and the woman's traditional role is to stay home and take care of the kids. If there's nothing wrong with a man expecting his wife to stay home then why shouldn't she expect him to work and make hte money? If I perform my traditional role well, then i have every right to marry a man who will perform his traditional role without being called a golddigger or accused of having double standards.
I dont know about others, but the biggest attraction for me in a guy is his deen and how he carries himself in regard to it. Money wouldnt even be in the top 10 list.
looking for a stable man is not bad who has a good job and education. women looking millionairs who hasnt got job or education, that makes them gold diggers!
whats ironic is this behavior is a norm in our society. having been made a bakra for rishta process i noticed families even the educated ones back home and elswhere are curious about guy's monthly income. followed by a question on being qadiani.so boys if you have the right answers for "kitnay paisa maheenay kai aur qadiani to nahin aap" you have it made.
Yes, and i'm sure you'll use what i said as "see women ARE after money" :)
Shakills, unfortunately ti seems any woman who considers stability/finances in a man is considered a gold digger... if money even comes into the question shes a gold-digger..
but of course its okay for a man to marry a girl 20-30 years younger than himself, coz men never marry young women for thier looks.. men aren't into looks, they're not shallow creatures :) its just women who are materialistic and greedy..what planet are u living on :p
Problem is these people do not have a decent knowledge on either Deen or Duniya that is why they cling onto money, which will make everything easy, as they say. Confused to say the least…
haha what a surprise....ofcourse most women are gold diggers and they don't care about looks that much,otherwise I would be very high in demand.I remember this indian friend of mine in america ,he got engaged to his pretty girl friend in america and was about to get married,but on came the recession and he lost his job and the girl said goodbye...ofcourse she wanted somebody with more money, but atleast she was pretty, there are girls here who are fat and smell bad and still think that they can be gold diggers..lol..you need to be a little bit goodlooking to be a gold digger ladies.
Lol i agree with that...If your gonna be a gold digger then atleast be fit...
However just generally i do rhink its fair enough to ask how much a man is earning...its a prerequisite and its a fair one...everyone wants to be loooked after...but its not what most girls base the end relationship on...if the guys a dick then they will drop it...
The girl who doesnt drop it is the gold digger...the girl who doesnt see it as a prerequisite but as being the only relevant part of the man is the gold digger...
In the mans case there is nothing wrong with a man getting ewith a girl based on looks...its a prerequisite but not a be all and end all...if the womans a b**** then most men do the right thing and drop it...a shallow man is the one who stays with a b****...
So there is a distinction...and to accuse women who are interested in mens bank balance as being gold diggers isnt always accurate just as a seeing a man with a really attractive girl doesnt mean he is shallow...both sexes need to rid themselves of these inaccurate misconceptions...
guy's, look at this from a traditional muslim girls point of view, most spend most of they're time at home, because they respect theyr'e parents wishes and try to fit into their traditional roles, u can't compare a muslim girls concern with here future husbands finances with ure typical non muslim goldigger who has total control over who she marries i.e. has the freedom to get to know her partner in any way she chooses, most muslim girls only know things about their future husbands which they have been told by others, for a lot of muslim girls, to some extent, life is like a prison sentence, everything they do is very restricted, only after marriage do they really start their lives and who would want to leave one prison cell just to enter another one i.e stuck at the inlaws house because her husband can't provide for her or even take her out regulally. These type of girls who talk about the finances of theyr'e future husbands are really saying, *'i really dont know much about this guy, but at least will he be able to provide a good life for us', *they don't get to fall in love with their partners before marriage, in which case finances wouldn't matter as they could both work on that area, remember a muslim girls life starts after marriage, she's young, she wants to go places, see things and experience things she wasn't able to do before marriage, & u need a stable decent income for that.
Don't get me wrong, there are loads of goldiggers but talking about finances don't make her a goldigger, just think about the situation some of these girls are in, most of them just want a good life, is that too much to expect from some who's gonna marry some1 she don't even know?
Also most of these goldigger types are young and dont know what lifes really about, as they get older they'll realise and change, it ain't illegal to be immature...too much MTV...celebrity lifestyle shows etc, let them grow up, u can only judge a grown up, not youngsters.
You gora liberal wannabe freak..
Let those muslim girls rot in thier life..watever they face in this life is a test, they'll surely get their reward in the afterlife..
Oh wait, no they wont, coz they're materialistic and greedy, they're all going to hell
