Depends.....we can not generalize it but yes it is a kind of sensitive topic. I find those people cheap who would borrow money with the promise to give it back and won't even talk about it for months and months.......
But the society here is pretty money oriented..........and over loaded with super cheap people (I am referring to gora community) ...... super duper cheap....I have a friend of mine who always keep complaining about her bad job and is a thrifty which is not a bad thing but whenever we would go out I am the one who ends up paying for her Mostly.
I have started feeling that I am being misused....even if I would go to Zellers or Dollar store ...she will pretend to be going with me with zero intention of shopping....and finally would show up with three bags in her hand and excuse O, I don't have change on me.
I feel we should definitely take care of our friends ...... but friends who deserve ........not of those who would exploit you.
Now I have a question.......yesterday I called this friend of mine ...and asked her to go for Coffee.......she came to my place and right away she went like......O , do you have 20 dollars on you?........and I had 20 dollars ON me......which are OFF me now and are with her........and I am sure she would never gimme my 20 Dollars back.....I am not mad on her taking my few bucks I am mad the way she never miss any chance to exploit me and would cover up her self simply saying ..We are North Americans this is the way we have been brought up....so what’s the opinion of you gupies.............
Should I be cheap like that N.A and ask her to gimme my Greenie Bill back?
Or should I be like nice and sweet Desun and stay Quiet.
I am at the end of my tether with her
Why is it that money is such a sensitive topic, esp between friends? This is just a general observation...
I"m always hearing about people who lent money to friends and they've not been paid back, and it appears that htey never will be....in several cases, the friendships are completely ruined because that person never paid it back and in others and it just breeds resentment, which is pretty damaging to the firendship. I see them in such situations, that they really need hte money back, but they dont want to bug the friend about it and cause tension.
Am I inaccurate in thinking someone who is generous enough to lend out money is also so that they'll feel embarrassed to ask for it back? Some of the reasonings my friends gave me were such that, "Oh I trust her, she'll pay me back" (its been 3 months, said friend says "oh we have lots of expenses" when she borrowed the money for something absolutely frivolous.....) or "money is money, I dont want to ruin a friendship over it" (its already ruined partly because of it).
I think I am pretty generous when it comes to giving my time and attention and feelings but after seeing what other went through, never wiht my money. I'm not talkign about hanging out with friends and paying for food/coffee/other minor stuff and wheN i do i dnt ever xpect em to pay it back... I've been taken advantage of in teh past in many other ways, so I guess thats also why I'm very cautious about not being a total idiot and letting someone take advantage of me....
^ dude, ask for your money back. it might give her a clue about her behaviour and also that you, surprise!, aren't a walking bank.
don't be shy about it either because you can bet if it was reversed, she'd be asking you for it right away. maybe next time you see her, you can say something like, "hey lady, wanna take me out for lunch? we'll be even then."
i once gave a friend who i hadn't known for too long 500 pounds to borrow because he really needed it. It took him about 3 months to give me 200 back but the 300 just lingered on and on. With time i started to get anxious because i wasn't in a position to lose that kind of money but i wouldnt ask him for it either because i felt embarrassed. Anyway several months passed and i was about to get married, i needed the money back,so finally asked him for it saying i needed it for wedding expenses. OH MY GOD! he was soooo offended! i dont know what it was exactly but he just went red in the face and started saying " oh you dont trust i will give you the money back" he said he was going to give it to me on my wedding day!!! lol can you believe the guy? this wasnt my salami!!anyway in the end i had to tell my boss about him(we worked together), who helped me a lot he told the guy if he didnt give my money back he would dock it from his salary! eventually i did get it back but he never spoke to me properly again.After that i would never lend anyone else money like that unless it was a very close and trusted friend! I was a dumbo! lol
wow we’re twins. I do the same thing. I don’t know what it is but when I step foot in walmart, I see all the goodies and I just can’t resist. In my mind I somehow rationalize how I might need this or that and when i’m safe in my car and look at the receipt, I wonder why I bought one of the things:grumpy:. At those times I feel like I need to go to walmart shopaholics anonymous. Does anybody else wanna join? I don’t usually like shopping but walmart’s my weakness. I try and stay as far away from walmart as I can these days.
And I don’t think it’s just us women who are like this…well it might be in terms of makeup and clothes but men are the same way when they get into a Best Buy or Circuit City and see all the electronic gadgets light up. They’re like little kids in a toy store so it’s not just a woman thing:snooty:
