What is scaring you the most? What are you looking forward to the most? How do you envision you will be different from your own parents, or how will you be the same?
As for me, I freaked out in month eight. MAJORLY. I heard about people we knew who died in childbirth just two months before my due date. I heard about others’ babies passing away during delivery or a day later. I was just convinced that I was going to die and I was concerned I didn’t do anything filmy like write letters to my child
I was perhaps looking forward to seeing the baby. Because I didn’t see a face in the 4D scan. Though I went twice. The rest, the overwhelming responsibility of a baby dawned upon me way before the baby came into the world.
I would have loved to be the sort of parent who plays alot with their baby. Who is always smiling. I wanted to be a child with my child, and have my baby remember that about me, that I was happy with baby. And I never wanted to raise a hand on him/her.
And I wished I would have the same amount of unconditional love and give the same amount of support that I got from my own parents.
In my case, I am a bit nervous about having the c-section. I have had 2 before but going into major surgery is never peachy n rosy.
Other than that I cant wait to meet my baby and the kids are impatient as well to meet their new sister. I have been the sort of parent also that plays with kids like a kid…but also setting limits and boundaries. Strangely even though I have 2 kids already…I dunno what I am nervous about.. perhaps the age gap of 4 years…so been a while since diaper duty…sleepless nights…etc…hehe.
As this is my first baby m just going crazy thinking about the weirdest things ever scared to the max.. m scared of the delivery, going for an emergency c-sec or pre mature labor and Allah na karey th cord being tied arnd the neck m just freaking out abt every thing. I want my baby to be in my arms ASAP.healthy and fine.
im looking forward to finally having someone I can say is allll mine to starting a family and having this amazing blessing in my life.
And if I could be half as amazing as my parents id consider my kid and myself lucky !! But for now its just the scary part thts making me paranoid
i am 33.5 weeks now and even tho i know all the medical situations (emergency or not) since I am a doctor but i still can’t stop worrying about it all. my husband thinks me knowing it all and especially recently finishing my internship in ob/gyn is whats freaking me out more cause i have seen things go wrong. there have been nights where I cry because I think I might die cause my mom passed away from placenta accreta (the placenta was attached too deeply in the uterus wall and when they delivered the placenta the wall of the uterus was damaged and there was too much bleeding) while giving birth to me. I KNOWWWWWWW that a death from placenta accreta is nearly impossible these days cause its recognized as soon as the placenta is delivered and if nothing else can happen they’d do a hysterectomy but i feel like it can happen to me - there is no genetic correlation what so ever. but still i have these moments and i’ll tell my husband he has to be as good a dad as my dad is lol.
just two nights ago - i had weird cramps and the baby was moving a lot but then suddenly stopped moving so i started freaking out (about the umbilical cord being wrapped around his neck - ALLAH NA KARE) and i checked his heartbeat with my doppler and i couldnt get a heartbeat so both my husband and i got really worried and then i tried a few things and after 5 mins i got a heartbeat and i spent all night checking his heartbeat. its crazy how I love him so much already I can’t imagine anything happening to him.
I am sorry for sharing all my worries here hahaha. but the point is that YES - I am freaking out! i am not as scared of labour (well I am!) but i think that I can handle that but I wouldn’t be able to handle anything happening to my little baby. I am just constantly praying that he comes to this world safe and sound and may Allah bless him with a LONG life ahead.
May Allah bless all the pregnant ladies with a healthy and happy babies, ameen <3
LOL, so true at this Tied Cord thing. I fear it too. Believe it, that scares the hell out of me. I would never want to have a C-Sec, may Allah protect me with that and help me delivering normally but I know I can’t bear the pain after being operated.. I would rather want to be in pain for a day or two but can’t for a month
Also, I avoid those women who just have bad experiences to share, I simply hate it. You tell about you and they tell you the worst experience they ever heard or came across. A famous saying must be for this occasion, Ignorance is Bliss. It is! Sometimes!!
Mashallah it is your first baby? May Allah bless you and him with all the health and happiness in the world. Worry not and do share, a support group helps a lot, especially when you are a new mom. Allah will protect you. Begin listening to surah rehman and surah maryam as well. Read durood when you can and try to send positive vibes to him. Talk to him. You are nearly there!
Congrats Queen. My advice is, be as informed as you can. It helps to spot any possible bad outcomes and avoid. If you had a roadmap which showed you where previously other people had accidents, you would drive carefully in those areas wouldn’t you? It is just like that. Being as informed as I could helped me, and it surely helps all women. Allah bless you and yours.
Aw that’s so nice of you Demesne Probably you got me wrong, what I meant to say was, I want to keep myself away from women who I know can only share their bad experiences. Someone who is warning you for certain things and someone who is just telling you worst stories after listening to you are different things. I felt my baby move mashAllah really early. When I told about his to a lady I know, she said, Oh, I pray everything goes ok, You know XYZ, she has just lost her baby in month 6th, she said, she felt her baby moves really early too", and it just pissed me off. That’s what I was talking about. Staying away from women who can mislead you or scare you for nothing
Thank you demesne its my 5th month and I cant wait for the baby to arrive .. this wait game is just too frustrating
congrats queen m scared of an emergency c sec too .. I hope we all have safe deliveriea and healthy beautiful babies Ameen
One more thing m scared about ia my inlaws forcing me to name my kid smthng of their own choice I know its silly to worry over such things bt iv thought of a name and love it just too mch and so far all the names they have suggested r so crappy lol so yea one more thing thats scaring me
yes it is my first thank you so much for the advice and positive thoughts. I do try to listen to surah maryam and yaseen often I shall start surah rehman too. my husband just recently started playing surah yaseen on his phone and he makes my baby listen to it and the baby calms down its so sweet yes. almosttttt thereee!!
I know what you mean. When I first got pregnant my sil said she also conceived really early after marriage and got a miscarriage so she said dont be very happy you might get a mc (Allah na karay) too.. I was so pissed cried for days
Girls! It is super important for you to remain positive!! BELIEVE ME the positive attitude transfers to the baby! I was mostly alone during my pregnancy, no family around and husband super busy BUT I began talking to baby really early and near the end I felt we had a good relationship started. Mashallah baby isn’t at all as bad as babies can get when it comes to crying, getting sick etc. Least that is what I am told. Baby apparently is good natured. I feel all that positive thinking helped. As well as playing Surah Rehman over and over. I feel surah maryam and yaseen are played mainly for a good pregnancy and delivery but surah rehmaan is for the nature of the child.
Also, I would advise you not to spread the news too much too fast. There is wisdom in keeping things under wraps. No nazr and whatnot. Don’t tell EVERYONE on the planet :P. Some people didn’t even know I was pregnant till a month after I delivered the baby!!
Totally understand. That sucks. In sha Allah everything will be ok you and me are almost in the same boat…same months
Demesne, so right you are. Yes, the way you feel, your baby will develop his nature too. Alhamdulillah I always keep a positive approach. I only got pissed off by the incident she mentioned at the wrong time, rest, I kept myself positive and avoid such people as much as possible. You know when they are in your list Oh talking to the baby… in the womb? Well my hubby considers me insane when I chitting chatting with my little bean in there… he gives me a weird look and says to himself… “paagal hogayee hay” :D… Yes, I had to hide the big news provided my history…but now.. it can be hidden anymore
scared to the max.. m scared of the delivery, going for an emergency c-sec or pre mature labor and Allah na karey th cord being tied arnd the neck 
m just freaking out abt every thing. I want my baby to be in my arms ASAP.healthy and fine.
to starting a family and having this amazing blessing in my life.
Probably you got me wrong, what I meant to say was, I want to keep myself away from women who I know can only share their bad experiences. Someone who is warning you for certain things and someone who is just telling you worst stories after listening to you are different things. I felt my baby move mashAllah really early. When I told about his to a lady I know, she said, Oh, I pray everything goes ok, You know XYZ, she has just lost her baby in month 6th, she said, she felt her baby moves really early too", and it just pissed me off. That’s what I was talking about. Staying away from women who can mislead you or scare you for nothing 
I know its silly to worry over such things bt iv thought of a name and love it just too mch and so far all the names they have suggested r so crappy 
thank you so much for the advice and positive thoughts. I do try to listen to surah maryam and yaseen often I shall start surah rehman too. my husband just recently started playing surah yaseen on his phone and he makes my baby listen to it and the baby calms down its so sweet 
Oh talking to the baby… in the womb? Well my hubby considers me insane when I chitting chatting with my little bean in there… he gives me a weird look and says to himself… “paagal hogayee hay” :D… Yes, I had to hide the big news provided my history…but now.. it can be hidden anymore